I really enjoyed this article "30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself" by Marc of Marc And Angel Hack Life. It carries a lot of truth and I have a feeling a lot of us can relate to these sentiments. I suppose, though, when most of us read this list it probably feels somewhat overwhelming and we'll start to question what we are doing right in life. Instead of beating myself up, I decided to focus on a just a few of these things that I would realistically like to stop doing to myself. I'm guilty as charged of the following actions and will work hard in the new year to eliminate these behaviors from my life routine. Take a look at the article and see what things on this list you can eliminate from your life too.
1. Stop trying to be someone you’re not. This may sound weird because I'm usually charged of being so uniquely behaved (think outspoken) but I do find when it comes to dating, I struggle with trying to be the girl I think most guys would like for me to be. The truth is, I am who I am and one day the man I'm meant to be with will love me inside and out, regardless of all of the shenanigans I bring to the world around me. Or at least that's what I'm going to keep telling myself.
2. Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness. We're all guilty of allowing the people around us to affect our level of happiness day in and day out. And this is okay, because other people are and should be important to our existence. But the bottom line is, if you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either.
3. Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break. This is simple for me. I take time off. I use all of my vacation days and I believe in the power of rest. Taking a break is essential to your health, happiness and success.
4. Stop trying to be everything to everyone. I just discussed this in my interview with Sophie at Life By Me. Being a writer is scary at times because the last thing you want to do is to turn someone off by an opinion you carry or the way you word something. I'm learning slowly, that I will never be everything to everyone. And the faster I accept this I think the better off I'll be.
5. Stop worrying so much. What you don't know about me? I'm a hypochondriac. I fear death (something I'm working on) and I constantly think there is something "wrong with me". I worry a lot. It's something my Mamaw and most of the women in my family do. We worry, we simply think too much. This year, I'm going to try to change this. I find that my worries don't change a thing, so why keep doing it?
6. Stop being ungrateful. I've started this practice a few weeks ago and some of the SHAPE Community joined in with keeping a gratitude journal. And I agree with Marc when he says, "No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life". If you're alive right now, you have something to be thankful for.
Signing Off Stopping Bad Behavior,