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What to Do When Your Guy Gets Clingy

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Apparently, Khloe Kardashian gave French Montana the boot because he was way too klingy—we mean clingy—for her liking. While that's certainly one way to go about it (and probably the only way if you've got a Stage-5 on your hands), if you do want to keep your guy around, but just need a bit more space, it can be a delicate situation to tackle. We talked to Tracey Steinberg, a New York City-based dating expert to find out how to deal. 

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Step 1: Reevaluate Your Feelings
It may seem obvious, but if you're labeling your man as 'clingy' or 'needy' you need to acknowledge that there is an issue, Steinberg says. These aren't exactly nice terms to throw around about someone, so you should probably stop and reevaluate your feelings, because it may be a sign that he's much more into you than you are into him. "Let's face it: If Bradley Cooper texted you ten times, you'd be blasting it to every person you know," she says. While a bunch of texts from someone you're attracted to might seem cute, and reassure you that you're on his mind, it can be draining and annoying if you're not so attracted, Steinberg explains.

Step 2: Get on the Same Page
Once you've confirmed your interest and attraction and defininely still want to be dating this person, you need to communicate how you're feeling about his behavior and set up boundaries. As Steinberg points out, "One person’s needy is another person’s attentive," so it's essential that you talk about what you want and need out of the relationship. While in the ideal relationship both partners move at a similar pace, this may not always be the case. 

Step 3: Assert Your Needs Nicely, But Firmly 
If your guy is trying to tag along for mani/pedis with you and your girlfriends and you find that super strange (you should definitely find that super strange) you need to express yourself in a clear and loving way, Steinberg says. Try this: "You know what, the last thing you want to be doing is looking at nail polish. Why don’t you enjoy the game and I’ll see you later?" Or, if he has become a serial texter, "I appreciate that I was on your mind, but it was important to me to give my friend my full attention, so in the future save your texts and I’ll swap them for kisses later." Give him the chance to make you happy (because he really may not know) by communicating what you want in the most fun way possible, Steinberg says.

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