Breastfeeding isn't easy for everyone, but no one is talking about it.
One thing that sometimes gets glossed over in the excitement of getting pregnant and having a baby? The fact that it isn't all sunshine and rainbows. But Whitney Port is taking a totally different—and very real—approach to new motherhood.
Throughout Port's pregnancy and after her baby's birth, she's been doing a video series called "I Love My Baby, But..." which is pretty much exactly what it sounds like—a series dedicated to being honest about her experience with pregnancy and birth. (FYI, here is your brain on pregnancy, week by week.)
Soooooo, I am nearing the end of my pregnancy and getting so antsy and excited yet nervous for the big day to come! Having no idea what to expect actually makes the waiting game so much easier, at least in my opinion ;). Last week, Timmy decided to put a camera in my face as soon as I woke up so we could give you the real, raw, inside look into how I'm doing! Big symptoms for me are swelling and super tender feet and hands (like insane!!! I don't even recognize them), general tiredness, feeling the need to have everything in place for baby (even though everyone keeps telling me all they need is my boob and a place to sleep), and HUNGER! The HUNGER has struck again! But this time I am just giving in to eating everything I want and not feeling an ounce of guilt about it. Who else is with me?? So happy I get to share this all with you! Don't know what I would do without all your feedback, support & tips! Click link in bio to watch full video!
Overall, the series doesn't gloss over the difficulties of pregnancy and motherhood. Right before she gave birth, she talked about the struggles of her third trimester and described the symptoms she was dealing with, like tons of bloating and very tender hands and feet.
I'm not obsessed with breastfeeding. There. I said it. Don't get me wrong, I LOVE the fact that my baby is getting all the amazing nutrients from my milk and that I am literally giving him life, but it has been quite the challenge. A challenge I didn't feel prepared for at all. In this Chapter of I Love My Baby But... I discuss my trying journey through breastfeeding. I have gained so much confidence just through the support you guys have given me, so if any of this rings true or you have any tips, I am all ears. We mothers have to be there for each other. I sincerely believe this community is what has given me the confidence to feel I am not doing anything wrong. Yes, there are times the opinions and judgements of other seep in, but then I remember I have you guys and it makes all the difference. I am really looking forward to reading all the comments and tips this week. I need them more than ever. Click the link in bio to watch full video. XOXO
Now, Port is taking on breastfeeding. In an Instagram caption promoting her most recent video, she gets pretty frank: "I'm not obsessed with breastfeeding. There. I said it. Don't get me wrong, I LOVE the fact that my baby is getting all the amazing nutrients from my milk and that I am literally giving him life, but it has been quite the challenge. A challenge I didn't feel prepared for at all."
She goes on to say that women are often told that breastfeeding the best route for both mom and baby, helping to ward off disease, promote optimal health, and even burn off calories that can help shed weight gained during pregnancy. It's true that breastfeeding offers a ton of health benefits, but it's not so easy for everyone. In fact, in the video, she shares that she went into it thinking she would breastfeed, but after a couple of days of doing it, it felt like someone was slicing her nipples with glass. Ouch. (Related: Has a Breastfeeding Benefit Been Overhyped?)
Chatting w/ @mydomaine about raising the next generation to embrace love, not hate: Although Sonny is too young to learn anything right now except that crying will get him changed and fed (he's only 3 weeks old ;)), my number one priority as a mom is to teach him right from wrong. Included in that giant life lesson, is the fact that people are defined by a large sum of different qualities, life experiences and backgrounds. Those who attempt to define people by the color of their skin are either afraid of the unknown or too lazy to do the real work it takes to know someone. If I can teach my son that it takes a lot more digging than just looking at someone to know their strength of character than I will have taught him a lesson worth passing on to the next generation. @colemoser
Considering that the main things we hear about breastfeeding these days are how great it is and that it needs to be normalized ASAP (both of which are true!), it's easy to see why Port felt so much pressure to make breastfeeding work for her. But the truth is, just like anything else health-related, different things work for different people. Not everyone will have a great experience breastfeeding, and Port's honest videos are a great reminder that that's 100 percent okay.
To see more of what she has to say on the topic, check out the full video below.