A few weeks ago I signed up with eHarmony, and this past weekend I had my first date with a guy named Lucas. I was so excited! I went shopping for a new dress beforehand, and found one that fit perfectly at my favorite store, Anthropologie. I felt beautiful in it, so when I met up with him I was able to relax and have fun at dinner without worrying that he was secretly wishing he'd gone out with a skinnier girl (old worries die hard). I realized that Lucas had no idea I used to weigh 235 pounds. All he saw was a happy, confident woman in a size 12 green dress—because that's the girl I am now. And that's also the girl he asked out for a second date this Saturday night!