Louise Aubery is a French fitness blogger who's garnered a huge Instagram following thanks to her body-positive posts. Recently, she took to social media to show a side of her no one's seen before, sharing an eye-opening post about how easy it is to criticize herself. We think a lot of women will be able to relate.
I am guilty. I am here to always be completely honest, because I feel social medias need more of it. | As much as I preach self love and truly made some progress accepting myself, there is something I really struggle with : pictures. . . Whenever I see a picture of me, the first things which catches my eyes are my FLAWS. I always see what is wrong. "Too close". "My nose appears too big." "My legs look too white". "I look terrible" This is usually what follows when someone show me a picture they took of me. . . YET, I really do not look at people's flaws first when I look at a picture of someone else ! On the contrary, I tend to focus on their assets. . . So why not do the same with yourself ? We really need to learn not to be so harsh on ourselves. It is not healthy. I am going to work on it, and I hope you will too. _____________________________________ Je plaide coupable. Vous savez que l'honnêteté est une valeur que je chérie; et je trouve que ca manque sur les réseaux sociaux. | Malgré que je prêche l'acceptance et l'amour de soi et que j'ai fait de réels progrès sur le sujet, il y a quelque chose avec lequel j'ai toujours beaucoup de mal : les photos. . . A chaque fois que je vois une photo de moi, tout ce que je vois en premier sont mes défauts. Je vois toujours ce qui ne va PAS. "Trop proche" "Mon nez paraît trop gros" "J'ai l'air trop blanche" "Supprime" : ce sont généralement mes premières réactions après avoir vu une photo de moi. . . Pourtant, ce n'est pas du tout comme ça que je réagis quand je vois une photo de quelqu'un d'autre ! Au contraire, j'ai plutôt tendance à voir leurs atouts . . Alors pourquoi je l'applique-t-on pas à nous-même ? On doit vraiment apprendre à ne pas être aussi dur envers soi-même. Ce n'est pas sain. Je vais travailler dessus, et j'espère que vous aussi.
Using two side-by-side comparisons of the same picture, Aubery explains how she sees herself compared to how others see her. She points out that even though others might notice her smile, her long legs, and her toned butt, all she sees is "cellulite," "back fat," and a "big nose." (Related: Blogger Unknowingly Body Shames Herself and Shares the Comical Photo to Prove It)
"Whenever I see a picture of me, the first things [that] catch my eyes are my FLAWS," she writes alongside the post. "I always see what is wrong." "Too close". "My nose appears too big." "My legs look too white." "I look terrible." This is usually what follows when someone shows me a picture they took of me."
But Aubery has noticed that she doesn't use the same negative and critical approach while looking at pictures of other people. "I really do not look at people's flaws first when I look at a picture of them," she says. "On the contrary, I tend to focus on their assets. . . So why not do the same with yourself?" (Related: 11 Hashtags That Will Fill Your Social Media Feeds with Self Love)
By calling herself out, she hopes to encourage other women to be more aware of their body-shaming thoughts, which might help them be more kind to themselves in the future. "We really need to learn not to be so harsh on ourselves. It is not healthy," Aubery concludes. "I am going to work on it, and I hope you will too."