You're in the prime of your childbearing years, but you're not sure you want children. If you opt not to have them, will you forever rue that choice? You might think so. Parenthood is in fashion, even for those who don't fit the traditional family model. Modern biotechnology allows women to get pregnant without a partner, even without sex.

Only one reproductive choice is stigmatized: voluntary childlessness. Many protest against this cultural bias, arguing that child-free (preferred over childless) should be a respected choice, says Berkeley clinical psychologist Mardy S. Ireland, Ph.D., author of Reconceiving Women: Separating Motherhood from Female Identity (Guilford, 1993). Motherhood is the defining life experience for many women, but it's not for everyone. Being female doesn't mean your instincts, talents and needs destine you for maternity.

If you're unsure about motherhood, consider that recent research dispels many negative stereotypes and forebodings. In multiple studies, the child-free say they don't dislike children. Some prefer adult company and activities, but the majority delight in children and maintain intimacy with relatives' and friends' offspring. A large percentage work with kids. A child-free choice doesn't signal that you had an un-happy childhood. The child-free are no more likely to come from dysfunctional families than those who choose parenthood, Ireland says. True, some women avoid parenthood for fear of becoming like their mothers, but many report positive mother-daughter relationships.

Those considering the child-free path are haunted by warnings that no one will be around to care for them in old age. But, Ireland cautions, children don't ensure against this fate. Elderly parents often live far from their kids, who in any case are absorbed in their own lives. The child-free cultivate other close relationships.