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8 More Reasons to Reach Orgasm... Every Time!

When it comes to sex between a man and a woman, sometimes the act can be a little more pleasurable for one partner than the other. It's pretty much inevitable the guy will climax but as for his partner, she can end up feeling a little—ahem—unsatisfied. If this has ever happened to you, fear no more—the "big O" can and should be yours each and every time you have intercourse.

We went to the woman who wrote the book on orgasm, Mikaya Heart, author of The Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women: How to Become Orgasmic for a Lifetime, and asked for her best advice. She gave us eight good reasons to make your "O" a priority every time.

It Burns Calories
Can you think of a more fun way to burn 150 calories? A half-hour of sex alone burns this much, but experts say that when you have an orgasm you burn even more.

"It's great exercise! It tones up muscles in different parts of your body," Heart says.

It Clears Emotional Baggage
Ever felt like you wanted to laugh or cry after an orgasm? "That rush of energy through your whole body clears out 'stuck stuff,' Heart says. "It's a natural release and expression of emotion that has been bottled up inside."
It's a Stress Reliever
Most women report feeling deeply relaxed after reaching climax, due in part to the feel-good hormones released by the brain that help you de-stress naturally.

"Climaxing helps clear away those residues of tension that we don't need to be carrying around," Heart says. And that relaxation, in turn, can make sex better. "You're more likely to have a vaginal orgasm when you're in a state of deep relaxation, regardless of the type of stimulation."

It Helps Us Connect
When we reach orgasm with a partner, we connect to them on a deeper level. "It's a way of accessing a reality that is much greater than our daily grind, leaving us with a renewed sense of connection and compassion," Heart says.
We Learn to Love the Skin We're In
"It's a way of making friends with our bodies," Heart says. "Our bodies love to have orgasms—and in order to have one, we have to let go and trust our bodies to do what it knows is right," she adds.
It Makes Us Spiritually Smarter
If you've been wondering if you should make that career change, the answer could come after orgasm. "Some women I have spoken with say that they get answers to things they have been wondering about, like what they should do with their lives," Heart says. "Even those who are not religious or spiritual say they have a new ‘awareness' after reaching climax."
It's a Natural Painkiller
Having regular orgasms may be a very good remedy for people who are in chronic pain. "Experiments have shown that when a woman is in an orgasmic state, she doesn't even feel pain that might otherwise send her through the roof."
It's Energizing
Forget that cup of coffee! An orgasm may be all you need when you want a little charge in the morning.

"Orgasm realigns the energy in the body and removes blocks to the natural energy flow, making us feel more alive and present," Heart says.