Chatting about orgasms, lagging libidos, or STDs can be intimidating. So we stepped in and did the asking. Our experts insights may reassure you, surprise you, and even inspire you to turn up the heat on your sessions in the sack.
2. I’m 30, and I’ve never had sex.
You’re definitely in a small minority: According to the National Survey of Family Growth, only one in 53 women ages 30 to 34 is still a virgin. “But there’s nothing wrong with waiting, especially if you’re abstaining for religious reasons or until you find the right person,” says Tammy Nelson, author of Getting the Sex You Want. If you would like to be sexually active and aren’t, however, that’s a different story. “As women get older, many begin to panic and feel out of step with their peers if they haven’t done the deed yet,” says Nelson. “If you feel anxious about your situation, consider seeing a therapist to find out what might be holding you back. It could be fear of intimacy, low self-esteem, or an issue from your childhood.” Working through these roadblocks can help you gain more confidence, along with the pleasure and emotional connection that comes from sex.