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Preferring This Type of Orgasm Means You're More In Control of Your Sex Life

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No matter how empowered you feel about your sex life, talking about the ins and outs of your orgasm can be a little awkward. Plus, there's the whole thing about whether you prefer a clitoral orgasm or G-spot orgasm—and, HA!—that's if you've ever even had a G-spot orgasm. Our resident sexpert Dr. Logan Levkoff says it's thought that as much as 70 percent of women don't have vaginal orgasms on the reg, so if you haven't experienced this unicorn of orgasms, know that you aren't alone. 

Knowing the statistics still doesn't make you any less jealous when your bestie goes on and on about her recent G-spot euphoria (she's always been an oversharer). Outdated and unfounded research stigmatizing women who cannot reach climax through vaginal intercourse may lead you to believe that your clitoral orgasms aren't good enough, or that they mean you are inferior in the bedroom in some way. Girl, that's total BS, says Nicole Prause, Ph.D., who is aiming to debunk that whole thing once and for all with the results of a new study. "We have decades of data saying that very few women reach orgasm through vaginal penetration alone," says Prause. "We even have physical data that shows the vagina is relatively insensitive. I got so tired of seeing women shamed and denigrated for what is the most common experience."

So Prause set out to disprove the orgasm myth once and for all. Her study first asked nearly 90 women ages 18 to 53 to answer questions that would give researchers a baseline for their typical sexual life (history and orgasm experience) as well as info about their mental health and wellness. Next, each woman was shown a series of films—some were totally neutral and others were sexual in nature, but Prause notes that even those sexy movies were pretty ~vanilla~. "Their purpose was to launch a fantasy," she says.

While watching the films, women were prompted to either try to increase or decrease their sexual desire or to simply respond organically as they normally would in the privacy of their own homes—meaning touch themselves, if the urge strikes. Afterward, the women reported their level of sexual desire and their orgasm experience. (P.S. Did you know practicing Pilates can actually help you improve your orgasms?)

The results, published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, found a few interesting things. First, most women (64 percent) prefer a combination of vaginal and clitoral stimulation to get off. Second, there's nothing physically or psychologically inferior about women who prefer clitoral orgasms. (Duh!) Prause and her team found zero connection between women who reported using clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm and depression or overall life satisfaction. And finally, the study found that women who prefer clitoral stimulation may even be better off when it comes to sex, as these women were able to better control their sexual desire when prompted, meaning they were more likely to report they could manipulate—see, increase—their own feelings of sexual arousal.

"The moral of the story is not that you should have one kind of orgasm over the other," says Prause. "Accept the way your body responds. Period." (Wanna have multiple orgasms? Do you, girl! Here's how.)

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