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Have an Amazing Orgasm: Upgrade Your Erotic Appliances

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50 Shades of Grey had us all feeling like our sex lives were a little vanilla. And while you don’t necessarily have to break out the cuffs and whips, bringing toys into the bedroom can not only spice up the sex but also help deliver a better orgasm.

According to a 2011 national survey, most people agree vibrators are a healthy part of a woman’s sex life (time to get over the idea that bringing one into the bedroom will freak him out!). What’s more, the women surveyed who had used a vibrator in the past month reported higher levels of arousal, lubrication, orgasm, and sexual satisfaction, and lower levels of pain during sex, than those who hadn’t used a toy recently. (Do you know The Weird and Unexpected History of the Vibrator?)

Vibrators can supercharge more than just your solo sessions too: “Around 70 percent of people with vaginas don’t orgasms from penetration alone, and adding a vibrator to intercourse can be the difference between an okay time and a fantastic experience,” says Erin Basler-Francis, content and brand manager for The Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health, a non-profit sexuality education and advocacy organization in Rhode Island.

And it’s not just toys that can up your O. “People underestimate the effect of lube,” Basler-Francis says. “There are a number of things that can affect a body’s natural lubrication—hormone fluctuation, prescription medications, antihistamines—and erring on the side of more slick can make penetration more comfortable.” (Find out 6 Culprits of "Down There" Dryness.)

Chances are, you already have a favorite titillating toy, but trying a new model or lube type can breathe new life into the bedroom. “We often become creatures of habit when it comes to the ways in which we ‘get off.’ Most of us know exactly what position, what level of pressure, what amount of force, and the depth of sensation that brings about the big O,” says Tiffanie Henry, Ph.D., sex and relationship expert and host of the TLC series All About Sex. Toys, lubes, and other arousing tools can refresh your orgasm, helping you discover positions, spots, and sensations you’ve never known could feel so good.

Ready to trade in your old models? Basler-Francis and Henry offer up the crème de la crème when it comes to lubes and vibrators.

Standard Vibe
For the no-frills females, this vibrator type is made to use externally (clitoris, nipples, frenulum, etc). Buyers should look for an option that has pleasing vibrations—test the vibe on the tip of your nose, and if it makes you sneeze, it may be too strong, says Basler-Francis. She recommends the Tenga Iroha mini, which only has one speed but is small, powerful, and waterproof—and comes in really cute colors ($25; amazon.com). A more spendy option is the Je Joue Mimi Soft, which is small enough to fit between two bodies but doesn’t sacrifice power ($89; jejoue.com).

G-Spot
For those looking to try out some g-zone fun, a curved insertable toy with a firm blunt end is a good investment, Basler-Francis says. Both her and Henry’s favorite is the Njoy Pure Wand, which is designed to specifically hit your g-spot. Plus, it’s made of stainless steel, so it warms to the body’s temperature (or can be heated or chilled beforehand for some temperature play). ($110; njoytoys.com).

Fun for Two
Both experts recommend the We-Vibe 4, a toy designed specifically for couple's pleasure. The device is worn by the female, but both of you can feel every sensation and vibration. And, while most vibrators leave the man out of the picture, the We-Vibe 4 has a remote control so he can take a more active role by using the buttons to tease you, Henry adds ($200; we-vibe.com). (If bringing vibrators into the bedroom is old news, try these 7 Kinky Upgrades for Your Sex Life.)

Anal Toys
Don’t disregard your derriere! “During orgasm, the anal sphincters also relax and contract. Using a butt plug can press against the internal structure of the clitoris and provide stimulation during penetration,” says Basler-Francis. On a budget, try Doc Johnson Platinum Silicone Lil ($25; docjohnson.com), but if you can afford a more high-end toy, she points to any Crystal Delights toy, which are made of borosilicate glass—so they're ultra durable and beautiful ($80 to $135; crystaldelights.com).

Lube for Dryness
If you have trouble keeping everything lubricated, Henry suggests Sliquid Satin. It’s water-based (so it will cause less potential irritation than silicone) and 100 percent vegan, and is great for everyday use ($15; sliquid.com).

Lube for Sensitivities
If you have sensitive skin or have been irritated by lubes before, try Good Clean Love Almost Naked. It's made from all natural and organic ingredients, and it's edible! And, since it’s water-based, you don't have to worry about stickiness and residue, says Henry ($15; goodcleanlove.com).

Want more? Check out these Good Vibrations to Supercharge Your Sex Life. 

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