It shows why not having the same body type as your partner is NBD.
Sadly, sometimes other people think it's okay to have strong opinions about your relationship—good, bad, and ugly (um, MYOB). This is especially true for mixed-weight couples, according to a study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships. The study essentially showed that the prejudice that people feel toward couples of significantly different weights is very, very real (100 percent not okay). That's probably why a post from a body positive Instagrammer named Jazzy has gone viral.
Over the years this man has loved every curve, every roll, and every stretch mark on my body. I never understood why! • How could he love something that isn't "perfect"? How could a man who was "born fit" love someone like me! I don't have a flat stomach, I jiggle when I walk, hell if I run up the stairs to fast my body claps (lmao)!! But now I see I do have the "perfect" body!! Every roll, every curve and every stretch mark is put on me just perfect to make both of us happy!!! I love my body and I finally see why he does too!! • • Photo credit: @ryanwmedia • • • #effyourbeautystandards #effyourbodystandards #everyoneisbeautiful #tummylove #youarebeautiful #aspiringmodel #aspiringplussizemodel #celebratemysize #curvysensedoll #confidence #lovemybody #lovemybelly #loveyourbody #selflove #summerbody #bikini #bikinibody #bodylove #bodypositive #bodypositivity #womenofallsizes #support #love #positive #plussize #positivity #plussizegang #positivevibes #youarebeautiful
At first glance, the photo might just look like a happy couple hanging out on the beach, but her caption reveals that there's more meaning behind the smiles on their faces: "Over the years this man has loved every curve, every roll, and every stretch mark on my body. I never understood why!" her caption begins. But Jazzy has been on a body positive journey, documenting her day-to-day thoughts and feelings on her Instagram account, which has amassed over 45,000 followers. "How could he love something that isn't 'perfect'?" she continues. "How could a man who was 'born fit' love someone like me? I don't have a flat stomach, I jiggle when I walk, hell if I run up the stairs too fast my body claps (lmao)! But now I see I do have the 'perfect' body! Every roll, every curve and every stretch mark is put on me just perfect to make both of us happy! I love my body and I finally see why he does, too." (Side note: These Women Will Inspire You to Love Your Body)
While there were some not-so-supportive remarks on Jazzy's post, the majority of those who took the time to leave a comment were doing it simply to thank her for getting real about why mixed-weight relationships are no different from similar-weight ones—plus how learning how to love yourself can make your partnership stronger than ever. After all, when you embrace self-love, it provides the ideal motivation to take care of both your body and your mind. Just ask this new mom who penned a heartfelt letter about self-love after childbirth.
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