Stress Free Sex

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Stress Free Sex

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Stress Free Sex

Q. I crave sex way more than my husband does. Could it be that he's just not attracted to me anymore?

A. We hear it constantly: Guys will get down and dirty anytime, anywhere. While that's true of many—particularly the younger set—it's definitely not the norm. Some men have a lower appetite for sex, just as some women do. But if your husband's normal sex drive has just recently gone south, there's probably a physical or emotional cause.

He may be having a tough time getting an erection, which can be so frustrating, he's just stopped trying to have sex. "High blood pressure and prostate problems can affect a guy's ability to get an erection or ejaculate," says Wierman. "Many common medications—such as some cholesterol- and blood pressure–lowering drugs, as well as certain antidepressants—also affect erectile function." A visit to the doctor and some simple blood tests can identify a physical cause of a low libido.

An emotional reason is a bit tougher to pinpoint (we're talking about men, after all!). Does he seem more stressed lately? "Anxiety can result in a lower production of testosterone," says Guay. "His disinterest may also stem from a problem in your relationship. "When a guy doesn't feel close to you, he probably won't tell you," says Real. "He'll just become less interested in being intimate."

Start a conversation about the subject when you're not in bed. Try telling your husband you'd like to have sex more often and ask if there's anything you can do to help him get excited about it. If the two of you can't fix the problem on your own, enlist the help of a therapist.

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