Outdoor sex isn't for the faint of heart! Heat up in cold-weather temperatures and get frisky (without getting frostbite) with these steamy tips
More than 80 percent of women fantasize about having sex in an unexpected spot—like outdoors, according to a recent survey published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine. But winter’s chill can put a damper on those of us who like to get frisky in the fresh air. We asked sex and relationship therapist Laura Berman, Ph.D., and assistant professor of clinical obstetrics and gynecology for advice on how to get around the top stumbling blocks wintry weather poses to your al fresco adventures.
Heat Things Up
“The cold is going to be one of the tougher obstacles,” says Berman. “It can restrict blood flow and that can make it difficult for him to stay hard.” That’s why she suggests cross-country skiing, snowshoeing, or hiking to your lusty locale. “These activities not only put you off the beaten path, so you’re less likely to be caught, but also warm you up en route to make things more comfortable later on,” she explains. (Don't miss these 5 sexual fantasies for women.)
He’s not the only one that can have some, um, arousal issues. Cold, dry air can dry things out down there as well, making penetration difficult and potentially less pleasurable for you, says Berman. Since toting lube with you will take some of the spontaneity out of your outdoor encounter, she suggests considering an alternative like Replens Long-Lasting Vaginal Moisturizer ($17.50; target.com). This lubricant lasts for up to three days, so you can insert it before leaving the house and be good to go when the right al fresco moment presents itself.
Get the Right Gear
In the warmer months, you can wear a breezy sundress (sans undies), he can wear gym shorts, and you’re good to go. But winter layers limit access. So Berman recommends looking for clothing you won’t have to totally remove to get busy, like ski pants with side zips (sure, they’re technically intended to make going to the bathroom easier—but they work for this purpose too!). Also, consider bringing along a picnic blanket with one waterproof side so you can sit without getting soaked from snow and slush.