If there’s one thing I’ve learned as a professional “before” and “after” (I lost about 75 pounds during the first few years after high school graduation) it’s that the hardest part about losing weight is not rejecting dessert—it’s managing the reactions of your nearest and dearest. You’re suffering through really intense workouts, but they are suffering through very intense emotions.
Don’t be surprised if you get a promotion at work and no one is interested in hearing about it. Who cares about your job? You’re a size four!
Oftentimes this scrutiny comes from people you haven’t talked to in ages—suddenly they're Facebook messaging you to find out exactly what you do the second you walk through the gym door. These questions may come at inopportune times, like while brushing your teeth in your sorority house bathroom. You better spit that mouthwash out, because they need to see your food journal, stat!
Now, we know that it’s possible for you to go out and have a good time without downing a Bloomin’ Onion and six pints of Guinness, but it's not always easy to explain that to a "concerned" group, which can make you feel incredibly self-conscious. Suddenly you’re the Mary-Kate Olsen of your social circle. You can try to say, “Hey, I just made a few healthy changes and I’m really happy,” but there's a chance they’ll suggest you’re just in denial—and start a nasty rumor.
You might feel like every guy you’ve ever known is coming out of the woodwork. Go ahead and embrace it! After all, you worked hard to reach your goal!
A word of caution: Try to stick with the new guys giving you attention. While it’s super gratifying that your ex wants you back, I’m willing to bet that you’ve changed—and he hasn't. Plus, it feels kind of crummy once you realize that "he only wants me now that I’m the 'hot girl.'"