One of your biggest weight control obstacles this week may be your friends and family. A lot of people tell me that they their most challenging holiday dilemma is spending time amongst food pushers who feel offended if you don’t eat a lot and say things like, "You eat like a bird," or "I made this just for you." Many families bond around food and/or use it as a display of love and caretaking, putting you in a calorie pressure cooker. Sometimes just saying, "No thank you," or "I'm not hungry" won't work, so, you can either be honest or you can tell a few innocent white lies.
If you take the honesty route, take your food pusher aside in a quiet place when you won’t be interrupted and consider saying something like, "I love you and I love your cooking and I’m so happy to be spending the holiday with you, but I'm used to eating less and it helps me feel so much better - please don't be offended but eating “my” way is the best way for me to really enjoy the holidays."
If you don’t think that will work or you just don’t have those kinds of conversations with your family members, consider stretching the truth – just a little. You can say that you have to watch what you eat throughout the holidays because you're following your doctor or nutritionist's advice, or explain that you get bad heartburn, reflux or experience blood sugar problems if your diet gets off track. Sometimes bringing in that authoritative third party (a health professional) or mentioning a health problem instead of just “watching your weight” will help others take you more seriously or better respect your choices.
I’m a much bigger fan of open, honest communication, especially since this issue is going to resurface every single holiday, but I also understand that it’s easier said than done. If you’re feeling loved but unsupported, please remember that your Shape community is here for you!
Have a safe, happy, peaceful and hopefully healthy holiday ☺
P.S. If you have any tips for dealing with holiday food bullies (even well meaning ones) please share!