What Molly Sims Wants Women to Know About the Decision to Freeze Their Eggs
The actress, model, and mom opens up about her own fertility journey and her decision to start a family later in life.
When Molly Sims was playing a pregnant Delinda Deline on Las Vegas, she was thinking a lot about her pregnancy prospects IRL. At 36, she felt like she was racing against her biological clock, and had a lot going on in her life. "I wanted some sort of insurance policy knowing that it took a few years to have a baby, and I didn't know if my fertility would be good or bad," she tells Shape. She started researching egg freezing and decided it would allow her to feel more in control. "I believe that young girls should freeze their eggs so they can live their life," she says. "You know, if they want to start in their forties, great, you know what I mean? Get that insurance policy so you don't miss out." (Related: What Ob-Gyns Wish Women Knew About Their Fertility)
She'd been living an exciting lifestyle but felt somewhat dissatisfied. "What was really hard was being on a network show where it's 22, 23, 24 episodes, still trying to model, being in kind of a dysfunctional relationship and I knew deep down that I wanted a family," she remembers. "And even though I loved my gypsy lifestyle, it just, it wasn't making me happy." Shortly after Molly decided to go through with freezing her eggs, she entered a relationship with her now-husband, producer Scott Stuber. Together, in early 2011, they moved forward with freezing embryos together along with Molly's unfertilized eggs and Stuber's sperm. Molly says she felt there was a greater stigma around egg freezing at the time, as not many people were openly talking about it. While she was able to lean on her doctor, in general, she says she didn't feel like she had a lot of people to talk to about it. "In fact, when I told my girlfriends that I was going to ask my future husband to do this with me, they actually thought he would leave me and wouldn't want to do this," Molly says.
By September, Molly became pregnant naturally with her first son, Brooks. However, the couple's second pregnancy didn't come so easily, so Molly went through two rounds of IVF. After two rounds came up with disappointing results and she was about to embark on her third go, she coincidentally got pregnant again naturally and later welcomed her daughter, Scarlett. Interestingly enough, Molly's third and latest pregnancy with son Gray was simply a happy surprise. "Finding out we were pregnant with number three was definitely a shocking moment, you know," she said in a video on her YouTube channel. "After five tests we were like, okay maybe this is happening." (Related: One Woman Shares the Good, the Bad, and the Ugly of an IVF Experience)
Despite the stigma she'd encountered, Molly never wanted to hide her family planning decisions or fertility journey. "I want people to know there's an option to freeze," she says. She's also opened up about the realities of IVF. "No matter who you are, it's difficult," she says. "It's so depressing and nerve-wracking, and there's so much pressure."
And even though she ended up getting pregnant naturally in all three cases, Molly says she doesn't regret her decision to freeze her eggs. "If there is one day that I wake up and I'm 47 years old and want another baby, I can have that insurance policy," she says. "Even if I never use the embryos, I'm still happy that I did it." (Related: Everything You Need to Know About Egg Freezing)
Molly's met challenges while working toward her career and family goals, but each of them has ultimately led to such a fulfilling life. "Whether I do anything else, and of course, I want to ... but I'm so content."