Jessie J Opens Up About Not Being Able to Have Children
"I'm one of the millions of women and men that have gone through this and will go through this."
More women have been speaking up about infertility to help minimize the stigma-and the latest woman to come forward with her struggles is singer Jessie J. At a concert in front of thousands of people, she took a moment to tell her fans that she could never have children. (Related: What Ob-Gyns Wish Women Knew About Their Fertility)
"I was told four years ago that I can't ever have children," she said in a video posted by a fan on Instagram. "I don't tell you guys for sympathy because I'm one of the millions of women and men that have gone through this and will go through this." (Did you know that the number of eggs in your ovaries has nothing to do with your chances of getting pregnant?)
ICYDK, about 10 percent of women struggle with infertility, according to the U.S. Office on Women's Health-so it's definitely something worth having an open conversation about. Not to mention, that number is expected to rise as the average maternal age rises. In 2015, 20 percent of babies were born to women over age 35, the age when egg quality markedly declines. So it's likely that more and more women will struggle with infertility issues and seek other ways to have children. (Related: The High Costs of Infertility: Women Are Risking Bankruptcy for a Baby)
To those women, Jessie offered some words of support and shared some advice. "It can't be something that defines us, but I wanted to write this song for myself in my moment of pain and sadness but also to give myself joy, to give other people something that they can listen to at that moment when it gets really hard," she said. "So if you've ever experienced anything with this or have seen somebody else go through it or have lost a child, then please know you're not alone in your pain and I'm thinking of you when I sing this song."
Just a few days ago, news broke that Jessie has started dating Channing Tatum, who took to Instagram to share his support for his girlfriend. "This woman just poured her heart out on stage at the Royal Albert Hall," he wrote. "Whoever was there got to witness something special. Wow."
If that doesn't give you all the feels, nothing will.