The thing about haters is that even if you are the most ~flawless~ gem of a human (like, ahem, Julianne Hough), they can still come for you. We caught up with the star about her new favorite workout (boxing!), the thing that keeps her accountable (her Fitbit Alta HR), her self-care necessities (bubble baths and time with her pups), and, of course, about what it's like to a celeb in the age of internet trolls.
"One day I'm too skinny, one day I'm pregnant," says Julianne. "Everybody has a comment and an idea of what you should look like."
While many celebs and social media stars take the clap-back approach to tell haters and body-shamers who's boss—and usually make a big splash because of it—Julianne has adopted a different approach, and it truly takes the war against body-shaming to the next level. And by that, we mean she totally rises above it all.
"One thing I learned, I think from The Four Agreements, is that when you take things personally and think something is about you, that's the biggest form of selfishness you can have," she says. "That really made me think, 'oh my gosh, I don't want to be selfish!' So I started thinking about it that way: I can't take this personally. I can't think it's about me when it's really not."
Whether a hater's comment reflects their own insecurities or is simply a way to bring others down, Julianne has a point: Shaming is almost always more about the person writing the comment vs. the person being commented on.
"I know my truth, and so I try to never let it get to me," she says. "Sometimes it gets to me for a little bit but then I think, 'Okay, be done with that, that has nothing to do with you, don't take it personally.'" (But, honestly, the haters should be scared: Julianne just took up boxing, and she totally kicks ass.)
And, the thing is, photos don't tell the full story: Julianne said she recently went to the beach with a particularly puffy stomach due to her endometriosis—and of course people on the internet assumed she was pregnant.
So even if the comments aren't biting, they're still commenting on a woman's body without knowing what it's like to be in that body.
"I might be the most skinny or most shredded that I've been in a long time, but it might be because I'm just really stressed out, not because I'm in good shape," says Julianne. "Or maybe I'm a little fuller figured, but I'm so happy and am actually in a very good place personally."
Luckily, social media platforms like Instagram and YouTube are putting new tech in place to help automatically combat hateful comments—but that doesn't keep seemingly innocent ones from leaving a mark.
"At the end of the day, people can get really hurt by somebody's comments, so just be kind with your words and think about what kind of effect you're going to have on this person," says Julianne.
Yeah, kindness always works, and refraining from commenting on anyone else's body is always the best bet.