She wants you to remember that neither the picture-perfect image nor the not-so-flattering tags represent you more or less than the other. They are both you, and that's beautiful.

By Faith Brar
Updated: January 17, 2018

In a world of perfectly curated social media feeds, it's hard not to freak out when someone tags a not-so-flattering photo of you. Most people's immediate instinct is to quickly untag-heck you might have even programmed your Facebook and Instagram accounts to ensure each and every tag is approved before it shows up on your profile. But body-positive blogger Megan Jayne Crabbe, wants you to think twice before giving into that instinct-and here's why.

Earlier this week, Crabbe, who is recovering from an eating disorder, posted two side by side photos of herself-one where she's looking at the camera in perfect lighting, and another where she's not posing and is sitting in what could be seen as an unflattering position.

Alongside the images, she wrote: "I remember a time when seeing 'your friend has tagged you in a new photo' would make my stomach hit the floor. I would drop everything and rush to untag it. The only version of myself I wanted people to see was the carefully selected, highly edited, what I believed to be the most 'flattering' (read: thin) version." (Related: Woman Uses Pantyhose to Show How Easy it Is to Fool People on Instagram)

Now, after a long, hard journey to self-love, Crabbe is comfortable with herself even in the "untag-able" images. "These pictures are both me. On the same day," she continued. "In the same clothes. Neither one represents me more or less than the other. Neither one is better or worse. But I know that's hard to believe about yourself." (Focusing on internal beauty is also the motto behind the 'Unguarded and Unbothered' Instagram movement.)

On top of that, she says she recognizes that the value of a picture isn't in how she looks, but how it captures quality time with loved ones. "Zoom out (swipe...) and you'll see that the whole picture tells a much more important story than how I looked," she says. "I want you to remember what that photo was for. It wasn't for the cover of a magazine. You weren't expected to look like an airbrushed supermodel. It was taken to capture a moment."

While it might seem difficult to stop critiquing every photo someone takes of you, know that the way you see yourself is likely nowhere near how others see you. Think about what the image represents-it's probably a great memory, and that's something that means much more than any tag or post ever could.

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