This story originally appeared on People.com by Julie Mazziotta
Even fitness influencers have bad body image days.
Trainer Emily Skye, who gave birth to her first child in December, is diligently working on getting back to her pre-baby fitness level. But as she writes in a relatable new Instagram post, she's feeling frustrated that her body isn't there yet. (Related: Emily Skye Has a Message for Everyone Who Thinks They Know What's Best For Her Pregnancy)
"A few times I've said to my partner Dec things along the lines of 'why aren't I getting leaner?' 'How come other people get back in shape quickly after giving birth and I didn't?' I even started to believe what many people tell me, that I won't ever get back in shape. I know it's not true but sometimes I doubt myself and my mindset gets a little unfocused," Skye, 33, writes.
Skye admits that while she constantly preaches "loving yourself and your body" and "not comparing [yourself] to others," she doesn't always follow her own advice.
"I just want you to know that I'm far from perfect in many ways," she says. "I don't always 'love myself,' I don't always feel confident and accepting of my flaws. Sometimes I do beat myself up and compare myself to others and don't feel 'good enough.' " (Related: Emily Skye Explains Why Gaining 28 Pounds Made Her Happier)
I haven’t reached my fitness goal yet & I don’t know if I ever will. That’s the thing with living this lifestyle, there is no end goal for me, it’s ongoing & all about setting & achieving smaller goals! I’ve had a few hurdles that threw me off track - but that’s just life. I try to accept & adapt. Of course when sh*t happens it’s frustrating & I get annoyed & upset but I try not to dwell on the things that are out of my control & choose to do what IS in my control. I also try to get some perspective & practice appreciating what I do have. I have a beautiful family & they are my priority. I also have my health which I am SO grateful for. I am only human though so I thought I’d share with a few silly thoughts that go through my head sometimes in case some of you feel the same - you’re totally not alone haha! A few times I’ve said to my partner Dec things along the lines of “why aren’t I getting leaner?”, “how come other people get back in shape quickly after giving birth & I didn’t?” I even started to believe what many people tell me, that I won’t ever get back in shape. I know it’s not true but sometimes I doubt myself & my mindset gets a little unfocused. I often preach loving yourself & your body, not beating yourself up and not comparing to others etc. but sometimes I don’t exactly “walk the talk”. I try to & WANT to but sometimes I forget. I want to set a good example for Mia & for you all who follow me. I just want you to know that I’m far from perfect in many ways. I don’t always “love myself”, I don’t always feel confident & accepting of my flaws. Sometimes I do beat myself up & compare myself to others & don’t feel “good enough”. When I feel like this I remind myself of the things I preach to others - that I should treat myself how I would treat my daughter Mia. I should tell myself what I’d tell her & love myself the way I love her. It’s SO hard to do but I believe that’s how we should treat ourselves because if we can’t love & care for ourselves how are we suppose to love & care for others?! . . #16weekspostpartum
The Australian trainer says that at those moments, she tries to remember to be kind to herself.
"When I feel like this I remind myself of the things I preach to others—that I should treat myself how I would treat my daughter Mia," Skye says. "I should tell myself what I'd tell her and love myself the way I love her. It's SO hard to do but I believe that's how we should treat ourselves because if we can't love and care for ourselves, how are we supposed to love and care for others?!"
And she's come to realize that her fitness is a lifetime journey.
"I haven't reached my fitness goal yet and I don't know if I ever will," she says. "That's the thing with living this lifestyle — there is no end goal for me, it's ongoing and all about setting and achieving smaller goals!"
Mia and I spent some time together by the pool this afternoon. She’s been really grumbly and clingy lately, not sure why... maybe she’s going through some sort of development or she’s started teething already! . I wasn’t able to do a workout today because Mia needed me constantly and cried if I didn’t hold her. - I stuck to the meals in my FIT Program though so it’s all good! . Anyway I’ve gotta run, Mia is losing her sh*t again! She’s lucky I love her so much.... and she’s kinda cute too! . . @BabyMiaElise . . #mumlife #16weeksold #16weekspostpartum
Skye is known for her candidness and has been proud to keep that going in her postpartum months.
"For me being totally honest about everything has, in fact, made the connection with my followers even stronger," she previously told People. "I have an audience of 80 percent women. I think the last thing they want to see is another person who's just breezing through it all without a problem in the world."
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