What Katrina Scott Wants Everyone to Know About Fertility

Every fertility experience is unique. Whether you're trying to get pregnant for the first time or the sixth, whether it happens spontaneously or with help from science, no two paths to pregnancy are identical. That's partly why so many people experience profound isolation as they walk their personal path — there's no way to find a single person whose experience looks identical to yours. The only thing that can pull you out of that isolation is to lean on others, even if their fertility journey doesn't completely match up with your own.

Tone it Up founder Katrina Scott knows that all too well. Scott welcomed her first child, Isabelle, in 2018. She's currently expecting another daughter, but between her first delivery and her current pregnancy, she experienced secondary infertility (the inability to become pregnant after having given birth), suffered pregnancy losses, and underwent grueling IVF treatments.

The fitness star recently opened up about her experiences while sharing advice for other hopeful parents in a fertility-and-pregnancy-themed Q&A on Instagram. During her Q&A, which is saved as a highlight on her Instagram feed, she pointed out that every single person will experience a different journey. (

When a follower expressed the fear of not being able to get through the IVF process, Scott wrote: "You CAN do it! I promise! You're stronger than you know." Scott went on to share that, while she frequently receives questions about the mechanics of IVF (the shots, hormones, the surgeries), the process itself was actually easier than her pregnancy losses. "I also know that this looks different for everyone," she shared. "For some of the friends I've met on this journey — it meant multiple retrievals, finding an egg or sperm donor, surrogacy, adoption...none of the options are easy."

Scott also shared her tips for couples navigating IVF, admitting that the experience can be hard on relationships. "We all process pain/trauma/loss differently," she wrote. "Clear away judgment." (

Scott is right. Everyone experiences both the physical and emotional toll of infertility, loss, and fertility treatments differently — but when it comes to the practical elements of the process? That's where your community can serve as a resource. Scott shared her own advice for before and after the final part of transfer day, which is the final clinical step in the IVF process. "Focus as much on relaxing at home and avoiding anything that can make you feel anxious (too much social media, TV, work, etc.) — it just helps with nerves," she advised. "Also — set up your space at home for your bed rest following transfer. Prepare snacks and meals ahead of time. Download some books and line up some podcasts for the next couple days." Scott has some practical advice for fellow parents dealing with fertility struggles: "If you're a parent, ask someone to help with your kid(s)."

Scott also spoke to the cultural expectations we place on people to "get over" pregnancy loss. "I'm working on it," Scott wrote in response to a follower who, at 28 weeks pregnant, is "still feeling" the loss of a previous pregnancy. "I know that a new pregnancy doesn't take the pain away from loss, so you're allowed to have tough days and mourn the loss of your angels."

Kudos to the fitness influencer for expressing that no two fertility journeys are the same, while remaining open about her experience in hopes of helping others. The isolation is real, and candor like this can make all the difference — even if no two journies to parenthood are the same.