Sia Cooper Totally Shuts Down Mom Shamers In the Best Way
The Diary of a Fit Mommy blogger was told to cover up after posting a photo of herself in a bikini.
Last week Sia Cooper of Diary of a Fit Mommy shared a throwback photo of herself in a bikini while on vacation in the Bahamas. The blogger said that she almost didn't share the vacay pic because she was "worried" about the cellulite on the back of her legs.
"I’m sharing it now because I want you ladies to feel empowered and to own your bodies," Cooper explained alongside the photo. "You are more than your dimples. Wear the damn swimsuit because life is too short! I love you all."
Over 20,000 people liked Cooper's post, but one user felt that the blogger shouldn't have shared the photo because it was too revealing. "To show your gains you don't have to show your behind like that," the troll commented. "You are a mother, think about [when] your children see your behind in your posts in the future."
Rather than letting the comment slide, Cooper decided to dedicate an entire Instagram post to calling out the mom shamer and shared exactly why comments like these are so problematic. (Remember that time she Clapped Back At a Troll Who Criticized Her 'Flat Chest'?)
"Since when were moms supposed to hide their bodies?" Cooper wrote alongside another photo of herself wearing the same bikini. "Since when were mothers no longer allowed to feel sexy? How do you think babies even got here in the first place?"
She went on to say that she wanted her kids to see a mom who feels comfortable and confident in her skin—especially since she didn't grow up with a body-positive role model herself. (Related: Sia Cooper Is On a Mission to Prove That EVERYONE Jiggles In a Bikini)
"I grew up with a mom who hated her body," Cooper wrote. "In fact, she also made me hate mine by nitpicking it apart and pointing out every time it had looked like I had gained weight as a teenager."
While speaking to Shape, Cooper further explained how her own mother's attitude toward her body impacted her a child.
"She was always on the scale, talking so negatively about her own body and I thought this behavior was normal," says Cooper. "Eventually, she began picking at my body too and I started feeling very self-conscious, [to the point] that I stopped wearing shorts." (Related: Sia Cooper Revealed Her Most Personal Health Struggles In a Letter to Her Younger Self)
In fact, Cooper says she wasn't comfortable wearing shorts until her adult years and suffered from an eating disorder in her teens, she told us. "This dissatisfaction with my body was carried out into my adult years, and sometimes I have to force myself to not criticize my body in the mirror," she says.
These personal experiences have inspired Cooper to lead by example and be a strong and positive influence for her kids. "It's so important to show and teach kids how to love their bodies because society will always share their harsh opinion," she tells Shape. "We live in a world that is very much appearance driven and children must learn at a young age to be confident about themselves inside and outward. I don't want my children growing up hating their bodies as I did." (Related: CrossFit Athlete Emily Breeze On Why Workout-Shaming Pregnant Women Needs to Stop)
But while being body positive for your kids is one thing, Cooper also says she feels that no woman deserves to be judged or shamed when she's feeling good in her skin. "Motherhood can make us feel less than sexy," she continued sharing on Instagram. "It leaves us drained, depressed, exhausted, and staring into a mirror, looking at a former shell of ourselves that we barely recognize anymore." (Related: Why Body-Shaming Is Such a Big Problem-and What You Can Do to Stop It)
That's exactly why Cooper says she feels it's important for moms to continue wearing whatever their heart desires, regardless of what others may think. "So mamas, put on your bikinis. You’ve earned it," Cooper wrote concluding her post. "Every woman deserves to feel comfortable in her own skin without society’s opinions. There is no rule out there that states you can’t rock a bikini just because you pushed a baby out of your vagina at some point in your life. In fact, that should make you worthy of one and so much more."