Time Out magazine's singles survey reveals just how many dates it takes to sleep with someone, become exclusive, and become official
If you’re single and going on dates, one question is guaranteed to be mixed in with the what to wears and when to texts: How many dates should occur before one of you suggests that tonight be The Night (you know, to get it on)? Thankfully, Time Out has polled more than 11,000 people in 24 cities around the world to help put this question to rest.
Singles everywhere have decided that 3.53 dates is just long enough for one of you to throw out the idea of going home together without seeming like a horndog. (Find out what Emojis and CrossFit Say About Your Love Life.)
If you’re ready to get friendly after one night, though, it might not go over well: Only 1 in 10 people surveyed consider sex a reasonable request at the end of the first date (although 20 percent have ended up in the buff after one dinner, so, it seems like some of us need to tighten our resolve).
As for other endings to an evening, over half of us kiss goodnight after a first date, while just under a quarter are stuck instead with an awkward goodbye (we’re lookin’ at you, handshake). Twenty-eight percent say their first dates often end in disappointment, but almost half have already talked about a second date. ("What Went Wrong?" Dating Dilemmas, Explained) But the survey also says you’ll probably know which side of the spectrum you’re on almost immediately: Almost half of respondents said they know if they want a second date only two to three minutes into the first one (that’s faster than your entire gym warm-up!).
Other ambiguities the survey has cleared up for us: You should stop seeing other people after six dates, and it’s okay to start throwing “boyfriend” out after nine. And it’s okay to do some light stalking before the first date—more than half of singles in cities across the world investigate their date online before the big night. (Watch out for these 4 Online Habits That Say He's Not Boyfriend Material.)
As for who we’re dating, one in five of the people surveyed have dated a friend’s ex, while one in 10 have dated their own boss. Thirty-eight percent of people, though, have dated someone who is in another relationship already—41 percent of whom are already married! (Want more juicy truths? Check out our Infidelity Survey: What Cheating Looks Like.)
Every city except for Paris cites online dating as the best way to score Friday night plans. And while Tinder may have changed the dating game forever, people are actually happiest going old school with good ol’ setups: 62 percent of people say their most enjoyable dates are with someone they’ve met through friends.