Exactly How to Answer The Question "Why Don't You Have Kids?"
Whether by choice or circumstance, women have a lot of reasons for not having children
Jennifer Aniston may have the most-talked-about uterus on the planet. So when she was recently asked, yet again, why she doesn't have kids, she finally answered, "I just find [this question] to be energy that is unnecessary and not really fair for those who may or may not have children. Who knows what the reason is, why people aren't having kids. There's a lot of reasons that could be, and maybe it's something that no one wants to discuss. It's everyone's personal prerogative, that's all." So in other words: My womb is not your business.
And she's exactly right. There's no one reason why women don't have kids, and it's a very personal question to ask someone. And yet people ask it all the time. Here, 16 real women volunteer their answers to that question.
I'm Unable to Get Pregnant
"It was because we physically couldn't have children, not because we didn't want any."
I'm Just Not Interested
"Personally, I just never found having children to be an interesting undertaking."
I'm Concerned About My Career
"I knew that the career I wanted wouldn't allow me to spend as much time with my [potential] children as it was important to me that they have."
I Never Saw Myself As a Mother
"I think you need to actively want children, which I don't. It's not that I don't love children, I really do, but I never saw myself being a mother. I am a very happy aunt and godmother though. People always tell me that I'll regret not having children, but the worry of future regret isn't quite enough of a reason to do something so major in my life."
I Don't Want to Change My Lifestyle
"Honestly, I am too selfish to have kids. I like sleeping in, I like going in last-minute vacations, and partying with friends. I like having my husband to myself and I just don't feel the need or want to change my life for a child."
Rescue Dogs Need Loving Homes, Too
"My husband and I simply realized it was something neither of us wanted to do. So we adopt German Shepherd dogs who need to be in homes without kids."
I Didn't Want to Give Birth
"I don't like the idea of being pregnant or giving birth, and I recognize that I don't have much, if any, maternal instincts. For a long time, I was the only person I knew who didn't want kids and I felt like a weirdo. I mean, I am a weirdo, but for different reasons."
I Was Afraid of Being a Bad Mom
"I am afraid I'd be a terrible mother: I can't get myself out of bed in the morning, much less help anyone else do the same. Plus, my husband helped raise his two youngest siblings, so he feels he's 'done his time.'"
I Don't Want to Lose My Figure
"I have zero desire to be tied down. I want to live my life to the fullest and travel and take adventures that would not be possible dragging a mini-person along. Plus, I've worked damn hard for my body and don't want to give it up for anything! Say what you want, but it's the truth."
I Haven't Met the Right Person Yet
"I've never met someone that made me want to bring a child into the world, but I hope that at some point I do. Kids are awesome. It's just not a responsibility I want to take on alone."
I'm Concerned About Overpopulation
"There are too many humans in the world. I would be a great mother, I have a great husband, but there are already too many humans."
I Don't Want to Be Tied Down
"I want to live my own life. I don't want to spend it taking caring of another person."
Nieces and Nephews Are the Best
"I've never wanted kids; growing up, I didn't even like baby-sitting. I've been in several long-term relationships and I never wanted to have kids with any of them. But I'm not averse to kids in general-my nieces and nephews are my heart and soul."
-Katie Stumpf (pictured with her niece)
I Can't Afford Kids
"I don't have the money to have kids and kids are expensive."
I Have Congenital Problems
"I am not having any kids due to issues with my hip I have had since I was born. I wish I could."
-Tirzah Dawn Allen