This Woman Had the Best Response to a Man Who Called Her Fat and Ugly
Rachel Nash refused to let some body-shaming words have authority over her beauty and her body.
Rachel Nash was casually going about her day when she received a series of text messages from an old colleague she hadn't spoken to in two years. "You know what amazes me about you Rachel?" the texts started. "You seem to get fatter every time I see a picture of you. And somehow uglier. Fatter I understand, but how do you get uglier?" Yes, you read that right. (Related: A Male Friend Told This Woman She'd Be "Perfect" If It Wasn't for Her Body)
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The 30-year-old nurse practitioner from New York was understandably livid after reading the harsh words and didn't understand what warranted such hate out of the blue. "At first, I was just like 'Really? It's Wednesday at 8:30 in the morning. Don't you have anything better to do with your life?'" she told Shape. "Then I was just unnerved by the fact that a grown man who is trusted with people's lives felt that it was okay to speak to someone, especially a woman, in that way." (Related: People Are Taking to Twitter to Share the First Time They Were Body-Shamed)
The man in question is a doctor Rachel had worked with a few years ago. At the time, he was also in a very unstable relationship with one of her friends. "When they were going through tough times, I would try to be there for my friend, which made him very hostile toward me," Rachel said. "He didn't like that I'd encourage her to get out of the relationship."
The couple eventually broke up and the doctor moved to Texas. Rachel hadn't heard from him again...until this text.
"I don't know what prompted him to say something to me after all this time," Rachel said. "I'm assuming he just saw one of my pictures on Facebook and thought that this would be the perfect way to bring me down and have power over me as payback for supporting his ex-girlfriend."
To her surprise, his words didn't impact her like she thought they would. "If this had happened earlier in life, when I was in my 20s, I think I would have seriously taken his words to heart," Rachel said. "But I've spent the past couple years learning to be more confident in my skin, especially thanks to the body positive movement, and honestly believed it was ridiculous that he thought his words had any authority over my beauty and my body." (Related: This Woman Had a Realization After Being Body-Shamed In a Swimsuit)
So instead of sitting back and ignoring what he said, Rachel texted him back, letting him know that she wasn't here for his nonsense. "I'd rather be ugly on the outside than on the inside any day," she wrote to him. "Please remove me from your contacts as I prefer not to use my time and energy speaking to you again." That was enough to silence him for good.
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Rachel felt liberated after letting the man know how she felt, even though he never responded, which is why she's advocating for speaking out and taking a stand against body-shaming bullies. "Yes I've struggled to love my body in the past, and still do at times, but I wasn't going to sit around and let some man take ownership of how I'm supposed to feel about myself," she said. That's up to her, and her alone.
"More often than not, the people who body-shame or say hurtful things are coming from a place of insecurity and going through their own issues," Rachel says. "Stand up for yourself because no one else will."