While we've made leaps in the right direction when it comes to body positivity and self-acceptance, stories like Tori Jenkins' make you realize just how far we still have to go. The 20-year-old Tennessee native went to her local pool over the weekend and was approached by two leasing consultants for wearing an "inappropriate" one-piece swimsuit. (Photo below.)
Infuriated by the events to follow, Jenkins' fiancé Tyler Newman took to Facebook to reveal that Jenkins was given three options: change, cover up, or leave. "Today, my fiancée was faced with either changing her bathing suit, covering up with shorts, or leaving the pool that we paid a $300 fee to maintain," he wrote. "Tori was accused of wearing a 'thong bathing suit' and told there were complaints about the way she was dressed." (Related: After Being Body Shamed for Wearing Yoga Pants, Mom Learns a Lesson In Self-Confidence)
While the rules at the apartment complex's pool state that "duly appropriate attire must be worn at all times," Jenkins' swimsuit (according to any standard) seems duly appropriate. Take a look:
"She was told by the leasing consultant that her body, because it's built [curvier] than others, is 'too inappropriate' for children to be around," Newman claims in his post. And that's not all: Jenkins was reportedly also told that she was responsible for the way men might react to her body type. (Related: Study Finds Body Shaming Leads to Higher Mortality Risk)
"There are a lot of teenage boys in this complex, and you don't need to excite them," the consultant told Jenkins.
"I think she's the most beautiful woman in the world, but I also respect her," Newman continued in his post. "I would never make her or any other woman feel less than what she's worth because of her outfit or her looks."
But perhaps the most important point Newman made was that his fiancée "was told that she is less important than how men feel around her." And that's what resonated most with the 33,000 people who've liked the post so far. "Wear. What. You. Like. Women worry about your sons' behaviors instead of body-shaming other women," one person wrote. "There is nothing wrong with your bathing suit. You look great," said another.
Jenkins has since thanked everyone for their support in a Facebook post of her own, but said that she's felt "really shitty" about herself ever since.