It's one thing to get sweaty during sex, it's another to be drenched before you're undressed. Get aroused—and cool off—with these tingle-inducing sex tips
As outdoor temps soar, you might want to consider cranking the cold in more than just your living room. That’s right: Playing with cooler temperatures in the bedroom (ice or chilled lube, for example) can tantalize in a new way—bringing a different sort of erotic nature to foreplay and sex, says Alyssa Dweck, M.D., an ob-gyn in Westchester County, NY and co-author of V is for Vagina.
Here’s why: Since your lady parts are a rich, densely populated area with nerves, a change in temperature below the belt can provoke a strong response before or during sex. New and different sensations—or anything that pushes you outside your comfort zone—will stimulate the dopamine centers of your brain, heightening your experience (err, orgasm), adds Laura Berman, Ph.D., assistant clinical professor at the Feinberg School of Medicine at Northwestern University. Think of how your body responds to freezing temps—our muscles clench and blood rushes to the most vital organs. Exposing such a sensitive area to that kind of temperature can send your body into overdrive! (For more mind-blowing sex tips, check out these 7 Kinky Upgrades for Your Sex Life.)
The problem: This hot spot of sensitivity isn’t given very much love! So cool things down to heat things up this summer—we promise, you’ll thank us.
1. Cool your lube. Start with a simple DIY method: “Just put any kind of lube in the fridge for a couple of minutes before using and it’ll change the sensation entirely,” suggests Vanessa Marin, licensed psychotherapist and sex therapist out of San Francisco, CA. (Need a lube? Find The Best Lube for Any Sex Scenario.)
2. Go flavored. If you’re more of a lube-veteran, options made with peppermint or menthol extracts will really maximize the cool, tingling feelings you’re looking for. “WET by Ecstasy ($11; staywetlonger.com) has peppermint extract in both a water-based and silicone-based lubricant. It’s not only great for lessening friction during sex, but it also provides a little tingling,” says Dweck.
3. Freeze your toys. Pop a stainless steel sex toy, like the Pure Wand from N’Joy ($110; shop.njoytoys.com), in the fridge or freezer. “Stainless steel toys get cold very quickly and hold the temperature for a long time,” says Marin. “That sensation is going to last a lot longer than it would with saliva or a lubricant.” (Get the scoop on how to Have an Amazing Orgasm: Upgrade Your Erotic Appliances.)
4. Use your mouth. “Try licking your partner’s skin and blowing lightly,” suggests Marin. “You can do it on any part of the body you want, and it’s surprisingly effective.”
5. Re-use your cubes. If you want that same arousal that comes from a little ice and white wine a la, 50 Shades of Grey without the cleanup, give reusable plastic cubes a try. Sure, they might traditionally be used to prevent watered-down cocktails, but who doesn’t love a little repurposing?