8 Male Erogenous Zones You're Probably Ignoring During Sex
Plus, how to stimulate his most sensitive spots for a more intense orgasm.
It's no secret that women have some very specific pleasure points on their body, and hopefully, your guy is no stranger to the clitoris and G-spot. Yet you might be surprised to know that the male body also has particular erogenous zones, or trigger spots, that-when stimulated-will make his orgasms more powerful and your sex life better than ever.
"Orgasm is the release of sexual tension, and tension is created through gradually increasing and varying touch and pressure on his passion points," says Claire Cavanah, cofounder of Babeland, a national chain of women-owned sex shops, and coauthor of Moregasm: Babeland's Guide to Mind-Blowing Sex and Sex Toys 101. "Licking and biting with your mouth, then adding in heat or cold sensations by sucking on an ice cube or drinking hot tea will drive him wild." To find out where to touch him to make his toes curl, click through our hot list. (Related: The 4 Simple Things You Need for Amazing Sex)
Erogenous Zone #1: The F Spot
How to find it:
The frenulum is the spot where the glans meets the shaft on the underside of the penis just below the head, and the concentration of nerve endings here is sometimes compared to the female equivalent of the clitoris. (Related: Circumcised vs. Uncircumcised Guys-How Sex Measures Up)
Make him go wild: "When giving him oral sex, let your tongue slide over that area," Cavanah says. "With your hands, stroke it with your thumb while you move your fingers around the shaft." To slowly build his arousal, go back and forth between stimulating his F spot and the less sensitive base of his penis.
Erogenous Zone #2: Soles of His Feet
How to find it:
"Men have a relatively higher concentration of nerve endings in the soles of their feet than women do," says Mark Michaels, coauthor of Partners in Passion: A Guide to Great Sex, Emotional Intimacy, and Long-Term Love. "There is an acupressure point about one-third of the way down from the third toe, right in front of the arch in the center of the foot." Pressing on this point, nicknamed the "bubbling spring," may boost blood flow throughout the body, getting him all hot and bothered.
Make him go wild: Start your foreplay by giving him a foot massage: Have a warm towel ready and then place his feet on a pillow on your lap. Use the warm towel to wipe his feet and get them warm, and then focus on this erogenous zone by taking your thumb and gently rubbing it around this spot as a transition to a more erotic kind of rubdown.
Erogenous Zone #3: The P Spot
How to find it: The male prostate gland, which is located about three-quarters of a finger length inside his anus and feels sort of like a walnut toward the base of his penis, is a hotbed of nerve endings. "It's similar to the female G spot, and gently massaging this area can give him a powerful orgasm," Michaels says. (Related: I Tried a 30-Day Sex Challenge to Revive My Marriage's Boring Sex Life)
Make him go wild: Your best bet is to talk to your guy outside of the bedroom before you try to finger his anus so he doesn't get any unwanted surprises. Try bringing it up during a romantic dinner by saying you love making love with him, and want to experiment even more. You might say that you heard stimulating his prostate can trigger a really intense orgasm, and see if he would be down to try it later on. If your guy isn't comfortable with you using your fingers to gently penetrate the area, there are other ways to stimulate his prostate. One way to do this is to give some loving to his perineum, or the smooth strip of skin between his testicles and anus. The prostate is internally located between the base of his penis and his anus so touching him on the outside of that area can externally stimulate the gland. "Have him lie on his back with his knees bent and legs spread apart, and then use your fist to apply even pressure to the area with quick vibration-like motions," Michaels says.
Erogenous Zone #4: Thumb
How to find it: You've got this one.
What to do: Many guys are heavily conditioned to focus solely on the genitals. "If you expand his capacity to have erotic experiences throughout his entire body, you can open up a whole other world of possibility for him," Michaels says. The thumb is actually a sexy spot for a lot of guys. "To suck on a man's thumb evokes sucking on something else, and can help him connect his mind and body during lovemaking. Start off foreplay by gazing into his eyes as you kiss his hands, and then suck on his thumb as a promise for what's to come," Michaels suggests.
Erogenous Zone #5: Gluteal Fold
How to find it: The crease where the top of his thigh meets his butt is a surefire passion point. "It's a sensitive area and could be the reason why some people like being spanked," Michaels says.
Drive him wild: Ease into it slowly."Use your hand to stroke him, run your fingernails over the area, then build up to a gentle slap," Cavanah says. Or, when he is lying on his stomach, try kissing a trail down his back, over his buttocks, and then gently nibbling along this fold and flicking it with your tongue before moving on to his inner thighs.
Erogenous Zone #6: Sacrum
How to find it:
The sacrum is the triangular bone located at the base of his spine in between his hips (think: the small of his back). There are nerves in the sacrum that are linked to the genitals, so stimulating these nerves can send sensations to his manly parts. In fact, some studies show that electrical stimulation of these nerves can trigger orgasm.
Drive him wild: Have your man lie on his stomach and give him a massage by doing light, karate-chop type movements along his sacrum. "Doing this not only stimulates those sacral nerves, but also triggers the parasympathetic nervous system which is key for relaxing, letting go, and having an orgasm," Michaels says. (Related: How to Achieve Multiple Orgasms In 7 Steps)
Erogenous Zone #7: Nipples
How to find it: Again, you know where to find these.
What to do: "If you're with a man who enjoys this, start by stroking around the areola and gently tweaking the nipple with your fingers," Cavanah says. "Lick around it and suck on it, increasing pressure and gently biting it. Nipples can be twisted and pulled to great effect, too." She also suggests trying a pair of nipple clamps when he's really turned on. It will keep blood flow in the area, increasing sensitivity and keeping them at attention. Or try sucking on an ice cube and then sucking on his nipples. "The contraction of his nipples due to the cold can heighten the sensations," Michaels says. (Related: How to Get More Pleasure Out of Common Sex Positions)
Erogenous Zone #8: Scrotal Raphe
How to find it: It's easy to give his penis all the loving, but don't leave his balls out in the cold. The scrotal sack is the loose skin that surrounds the testicles and that's what feels good to stimulate. "The line that runs in the middle like a seam is the raphe," Cavanah says.
What to do: "Gently flicking the raphe with your tongue feels great to most men," Cavanah says. "Let him guide you on how much pressure he likes, because the amount varies depending on the guy." To get him really hot, sip on very warm tea and then flick your heated tongue over this sensitive area. He'll lose himself in the new feelings, and novelty can make for more powerful orgasms.