The Best Oral Sex Positions for Women
The Magic of Good Oral Sex
Oral sex is the crème de la crème for vulva owners. It's the top sexual act for successfully reaching orgasm. Having a partner's full concentration on your clitoris, vulva, and vagina allows you to lie back and enjoy the pleasure to the fullest.
Even though some people are a little apprehensive about oral sex, consider being open to exploration. Getting up close and personal with your partner's taste and smell, and figuring out how they like to be touched, licked, and rubbed can be sexy.
There are so many ways to receive (and give) oral sex. It's exciting to figure out which oral sex positions work for you and your partner. Pro tip: Be sure to communicate clearly and honestly about what you like and don't like. Verbal communication means both people get what they want.
Whichever position you choose off the oral sex menu, have fun with it. Sure, not everything will work for you, but exploring is half the fun. (More here: How to Give Great Oral Sex to Anyone)
The 69 sex position gets a lot of hate, but it really shouldn't. (See: Everything You Need to Know About the 69 Position) This oral sex position is a take on the classic, only better. Instead of mounting your partner (or visa versa) from the top, give each other oral sex on your side.
This is an easy position for when you both want oral, but still need to keep it simple and straightforward. It offers an awesome, up-close view of your partner's genitals while requiring a little less upper-body strength of the top partner. Just be sure you lift your upper leg slightly so as not to suffocate anyone.
There is nothing like a tried-and-true classic. Just because something is a go-to doesn't make it any less awesome. This position allows the giver lots of full-vulva access. You also have ample access to the clit and vagina if you're interested in spicing it up with penetration with fingers or toys. (See: How to Introduce a Sex Toy Into Your Relationship)
The receiver lies on their back with knees bent on the bed. You can choose to lie your knees in a spread butterfly position or play with different leg positions for different sensations. The giver kneels or lies between their legs. If you want a little more lift, put a pillow under the receiver's hips. This can help take some strain off giver's neck and gives you better access to the vagina.
Face-sitting offers a bit of Domme-energy power-play while giving you a bit more control over the action. The giver lies flat while the receiver kneels over their face, facing their head, knees on either side of the giver's head. You might want to rest your arms over your headboard to lift your vulva slightly so as not to put too much pressure on your partner's chest. Check in to see if they're comfortable.
In this position, the receiver has a lot of control over the pace and pressure of their vulva, and both the giver's hands are free to grab some buttcheeks. You can ride against your partner's tongue and mouth for extra stimulation. You're in an active position, which allows you to get what you want while feeling very top-y and in charge. (Related: All the Best Sex Positions for Women)
The Edge of Reason
This position is an all-access pass to the vulva. The receiver lies flat on their back with their butt right at the edge of the bed/counter/couch. The giver kneels (or stands, depending on height) on the floor facing their vulva.
The giver can stick a cushion under their knees for extra padding. If you want, the receiver can put their feet on the giver's shoulders for a little more balance, or they can let their legs dangle. This position frees up the giver's hands for some penetration, nipple stimulation, or tongue sex. (P.S. You can also get more clit stimulation from penetrative sex positions, too.)
Doggy style isn't just for penetration—it's a versatile oral sex position as well. The receiver gets on hands and knees while the giver kneels behind them, giving the receiver control of the pressure and angle because of the ability to lean back into the giver's face. You can stay on your hands and knees or lie flat with your legs spread, whichever is most comfortable.
Since your partner's hands are free, they can add in a host of other fun penetrative activities such as penetration with a dildo or toy, an anal buttplug, or a vibrating G-spot wand. (Confused? Next read: Guide to the 12 Main Types of Sex Toys)
If you're feeling extra frisky and kinky, this position also gives great access to the anus for rimming. (Here's more on how to get into butt play if you're new to it.)
This take on face-sitting offers a new twist. It's like reverse rider (or cowgirl), only you might actually have an orgasm this time (the thigh burn is so real). The giver lies flat while the receiver kneels over their face, facing their feet, knees on either side of the giver's head. You can place hands on your partner's chest, hips, or the bed for balance.
Stay on your hands and knees, allowing yourself to be the solo-pleasured partner, or turn the position into a 69 by leaning forward to pleasure your partner with your hands or mouth. Keep in mind that if your partner has facial hair, putting your vulva that near their chin can cause chaffing, so it's best to be clean-shaven for this one.
Lean your back against the wall or a door. Have your partner kneel in front of you and go down on you. If it's comfortable, place a foot or leg on your partner's shoulder to give them more access to your clitoris.
Don't be afraid to get a toy in on the action. There are so many amazing options to try, like the Gigi 2 from Lelo (the girthy head is great for G-spot stimulation) or the Le Wand Petite (to stimulate the mons pubis from above or the vaginal opening while your partner is stimulating the clitoris).