14 Best Vibrators to Use with a Partner
Why You Should Bring a Vibrator Into Your Relationship
You know what they say: two's a party, three's a gala...or at least, that's what sexperts say when the third is a vibrator.
That's because pleasure products can add an extra oomph of intimacy and get you to come together (ahem) to chat about your sexual needs and wants. "If you find you and your partner are on autopilot, adding a vibrator can get you talking and experimenting again," according to Amy Boyajian, co-founder and CEO of Wild Flower, an online innovative sexual wellness and adult store.
If you've never used a sex toy together before, introducing one may require a little ~savvy~. A conversation is the mandatory first step. (Nope, you can't just whip it out). "Reassure your partner that a vibrator isn't in competition with them," says Boyajian. "Instead, it's there to enhance and compliment the already good sex you're already having together."
Next, they suggest sitting down with your partner to select a new bedroom accessory together (#teamwork). A great place to start? This list.
Ahead, sexperts dish on the best 14 vibes to use with another person. From vibrating cock rings and butt plugs to more traditional clit vibes, chances are something on this list is gonna scream out to you. (Next up: The Best Sex Positions for Using a Vibrator)
Satisfyer Power Flower
Satisfyer's tulip-inspired vibrator has velvety, silicone petals that can flirt with, well, any part of the body. "The fluttering petal tips are great for the outer lips of the labia and clit, the penis, and for total body stimulation as foreplay," explains Megwyn White, somatic sensuality guide and director of education at Satisfyer. "The toy can even be used internally to stimulate the g-spot."
Satisfyer Charming Smile
Introducing a sex toy into your sex life with your partner for the first time? Try this non-intimidating periwinkle babe. "It's a great option for beginners," says White. "It's smooth, powerful, and great for folks who enjoy G-spot play," says White. It's curved smile-like (get the name now?) "shaft" is flexible enough to move with your, or your partners, body. (See more: The Magical Truth About The G-Spot).
And there are 12 vibration settings, the lowest intensity is amazingly subtle—a win for anyone with very sensitive clits—while the most-intense setting rivals The Hitachi.
B-Vibe Rimming Plug
If the name doesn't give it away, the B-Vibe Rimming Plug is a ~*vibrating*~ booty plug. This may not be the best choice if you're just starting to introduce The Butt into your sexual repertoire; rather, once you've confirmed you like anal penetration, this toy can make it a more shared experience.
"It's about the size of a finger, maybe two," says Alicia Sinclair, certified sex educator & CEO of b-Vibe, the anal play product company that makes this product. "There are 15 different vibration speeds that you control with a remote control. Giving the remote control to your partner allows it to be a shared experience."
At $140, it's more of a splurge, but consider this: It's body-safe, offers 90 minutes of power, and the remote can make your booty shake from over 30-feet away. Sold. (Related: The Best Anal Sex Toys Ever).
Did you know that there's a sex toy that can bend to fit your desired shape? Introducing: Crescendo. "Crescendo can be shaped to fit any and all needs, which is perfect for couples to explore a range of desires and bodies," says Dominnique Karetsos, resident sex expert at MysteryVibe. Whether you're looking for G-spot, clitoral, penis, or perineum stimulation, the toy's six independent motors can be adjusted to tantalize you and your partner's pleasure points.
Oh, and exploration doesn't have to stop there, says Karetsos. "Crescendo's vibration patterns can be controlled via an app, so let your partner surprise you." Go on, hand over control. (This isn't the only app that can improve your sex life. Peep more here.)
"As a wearable design for people with penises, Tenuto targets multiple pleasure points simultaneously, from shaft to testicles and perineum," says Karetsos. The entire toy vibrates, which also creates a pleasurable, teasing sensation for the other partner. "The intense rhythmic vibrations can be felt from the labia to the clitoris," she says.
Tenuto is a great toy for spicing up missionary position; the pressure between both partners intensifies Tenuto's vibrations. And like many other toys on the list, Tenuto has an app that can control the vibrations. "This is great for partners experimenting with power and/or dom/sub play. Try changing the vibrations while your partner is tied up or in handcuffs from across the room to redefine the art of teasing," suggests Karetsos. BRB, taking a cold shower.
Enjoy penetration but LOVE a two-in-one, penetration-and-clit stimulation situation? (Hello, blended orgasm!) Try Halo, Bellesa's premium cock ring. Designed to be worn by someone with a penis or stapped onto a dildo, "Halo is a hands-free toy that stimulates the clitoris," says Michelle Shnaidman, founder and CEO of Bellesa. "Basically, it's a toy that makes everyone happy!" Cheers to mutually pleasurable sex, amiright?
Consider this palm-sized vibrator you and your partner's new bedtime pal. Thoughtfully designed with vulvas in mind, "It's soft, small, and ergonomic shaped to stay cupped in you or your partner's hand." says sexual health educator Navy Bastiaan, who is also a project manager with O.School. "Slide it between you your bodies during partner sex." Then, lay back and enjoy one of the five preset rumbly speeds.
Vedo Yumi Finger Vibe
This cutie is can be held in a hand or between fingers and is designed to add extra stimulation to external erogenous zones. "It's ultra quiet, which is great for more public quickies with your partner or if you have roommates," says Boyajian. "It allows you to really pinpoint the desired pleasure zones, in any position." (Check out history's most memorable vibrators and feel truly amazed by this small but mighty toy.)
Another finger-vibe option is The Fin by Dame Products. "It slips between two fingers, is small, unintimidating, and feels like an extension of you or your partner's own body," says Bastiaan. (For a sense of scale, it's about the size of a strawberry.) Slip it on like a ring, choose one of the three vibration patterns, and get handsy. (Related: 3 Women-Owned Vibrator Brands You Should Know About)
Vibrating Me2 Probe
"This is an excellent toy for two vulvas to get pleasure at the same time," says McDevitt. Her recommendation? "Use it for a scissoring-style position; have one partner insert the vaginal probe, and the other enjoy the texture pad for clitoral stimulation." From there, turn one of the toys seven vibration patterns and find your rhythm. (Curious? Check out this guide to sleeping with another woman).
Pro tip: Add a dab of lube to the textured pad to enhance the slip-and-slide sensations. (Just remember that silicone-based lubes can degrade the integrity of silicone-based toys like this one over time, so opt for a water-based lube).
Miracle Massager Rechargeable
"It's so powerfully rumbly," she says. Either use it with your partner during penetrative play. Or take her suggestion: "Use in front of your partner so that they can watch you. "The moans this toy will create will put on a good show," she says. Another option: "Use it on yourself while you give your partner oral." And no, you don't need to plug it in to use it, as many other power-vibes require.
The first original product by Wild Flower, Enby is truly for partners of any gender and genital configuration. The name istself, "enby," signals it's gender-free status. (Enby is often used as shorthand for "nonbinary", which is abbreviated to "NB" and then pronounced by this toys name.)
"One of our design goals was to create a toy that partners could easily slip between bodies. The raised bump is great for grinding, and the ridges on the underside will keep Enby in place," explains Boyajian. "Enby is also great for strap-on play. Simply slip in a harness or underwear so both partners can simultaneously enjoy sensations." And, its wings are more flexible than they look, so the toy can be curled and used as a sleeve to stroke a penis or dildo. (Related: Why Asking Your Date if She's Queer Enough Is Really Not Okay).
Satisfyer Partner Multi Fun Vibe
This vibe is so fun for partner use, it's in the name. What makes it so flipping great? Its versatility. "It can be used as a cock ring, clit vibe, nipple clamp or tease, G or P spot stimulator, or massager," says Boyajian. "The options are truly endless." Plus, it has not one, not two, but 100 (!!) vibration patterns and combos, so there's basically zero chance you and your boo can't both find a setting that has you saying, Oh, baby! Not bad for a toy that's only fifty bucks.
If you and your partner enjoy bathtub or shower sex, McDevitt recommends this waterproof vibe. If you have a wall to hold onto, try standing doggy style with your partner. Hold onto the wall with one hand, and the toy with another while your partner penetrates you from behind (anally or vaginally). Or, try mutual masturbation, using the toys nice contour for clit stimulation, suggests McDevitt.
Bonus: "It doesn't even look like a vibrator and could easily be left in the shower and disguised among a razor case and other bathtub gadgets," says McDevitt. Who says only kids get shower toys?