If you're familiar with the dating app options that are available right now, you've likely heard about Bumble, which differentiates itself from the rest by requiring women to make the first move once two people have been matched. (Thank you for saving us from all the creeps who are in it for the wrong reasons, Bumble.) This tactic allows women to feel more in control of their dating life, unlike apps such as Tinder and Hinge, which allow anyone you match with to strike up a convo. (BTW, Tinder recently revealed the "sexiest job" on the app.)
Unfortunately, no dating app can conquer the phenomenon of ghosting, when one person just completely stops responding to the other with no explanation. It's pretty much the rudest thing you can do to someone you're having a romantic conversation with, but it happens *all* the time, especially when it comes to relationships that originate online. (As if dating wasn't hard enough, right?)
That's why one woman decided to submit her ghosting story to Elite Daily's Boom, Ghosted, a weekly column where the site shares one really shameful ghosting sitch every week. This one was so bad that Bumble actually decided to ban the guilty party—an admirable move on their part.
Let us explain. A woman matched with a guy on Bumble and they went on a date. Then, after a text convo that seemed to be going well, he ghosted her. She was bummed but didn't really think anything of it because sadly, this is pretty common. Then, this happened: "I found a new Bumble profile he made. He added in at the bottom, "Pleeeeease don't be fat in real life."
The guy had actually gone through the trouble to create an entirely new profile, complete with a really offensive fat-shaming comment. Understandably, the woman felt pretty bummed and confused. She continued, "Like, ummm, excuse me? I know it could have been about someone else, like from his hometown, but the coincidence is a little sketchy to me. So now, I want to publicly roast him for being a misogynistic pig. And by the way, I'm not actually fat. I can just squat, like, 200 pounds, so I have pretty thick thighs."
First, those are some serious squat #goals. (These women are proof that being strong is dead sexy.) Second, we don't blame her for wanting to bring attention to the fact that this guy is a total creep. It actually doesn't matter if he was specifically talking about her or not because this kind of anti-fat language isn't acceptable in any situation.
So here's where things take a positive turn. Bumble saw the post about this whole saga and reached out to the writer who put together the story in order to get identifying information about the user so he could be removed from the app.
Bumble's user guidelines pretty clearly state that this kind of behavior is not okay: "We're a very diverse community. This means you should respect other people's beliefs, interests, and property while on Bumble. You should behave the same way on Bumble as you would in real life." It's totally possible that his guy is a jerk IRL, but in any case, now you can rest assured there's one less a-hole on Bumble. Happy swiping! (Need advice on meeting someone on the internet? Check out these 7 tips for online dating.)