If you think doggy style can't be intimate, you should take another look. Here, sex educators share all the things the doggy style sex position has going for it.

By Gabrielle Kassel
October 01, 2019
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Serious question: What's more pleasurable, a colonoscopy or doggy style? Some vulva-owners—especially those who are far too familiar with the jack rabbit-speed doggy style sex—will probably tell you both lack romance, intimacy, and comfort. So, if you're feeling pretty *thumbs down emoji* about the doggy style position, you're not alone.

"Doggy style gets a bad rep because there's no eye-contact and it's not seen as being as 'intimate' as, say, the missionary position," confirms sex educator, August McLaughlin, author of Girl Boner and Girl Boner Journal. Thing is, facing away from each other isn't necessarily a bad thing, she says. If you ever feel self-conscious about the face you make during sex, doggy style can make you feel free to let loose, explains McLaughlin.

Plus, "if you rule out doggy style sex, you can really miss out on some of the great potential benefits of the position" (like G-spot and A-spot stimulation, breast play, and more), she says. That's why, if you've got a ready and willing partner, you can make some tweaks to the doggy style sex position and give it another shot. (Related: The Best Sex Positions for Women)

Below, McLaughlin along with Candice Smith, M.Ed, the resident sex expert for My First Blush share everything they know about doggy style, including eight reasons to put the position back in rotation.

Doggy Style Sex Position 101

Let's start with a quick refresher: "Doggy style is when one partner is positioned behind the other and penetrates their vagina or anus from behind, using a toy, penis, or finger," says McLaughlin. Typically, this happens with the receiving partner positioned in a hands-and-knees stance on all fours. But you've actually got options.

"Doggy style is an incredibly customizable rear-entry position," says Smith. "Doggy can be done standing, kneeling, lying on your side or your stomach, while bent over the couch, up against a wall…whatever strikes your fancy."

Ready for more intel on the OG sex position? Keep reading for reasons why doggy style sex is soooo good.

1. It's best for G-spot stimulation.

Named after the first doctor to describe it in medical literature, Ernst Gräfenber, the G-spot is a penny-sized pleasure-point that's about two inches deep on the front vaginal wall. You've probably heard you can find this spot by making a come-hither stroking motion with your fingers inside your vagina—this is true. But it can also be stimulated through doggy style sex.

"Your partner will be able to best hit your G-Spot if you lower your torso toward the bed," says McLaughlin. So, let your upper-body relax and ask to have your partner thrust slow and shallow. Remember, the G-spot is only an inch or two or three inside the vaginal wall, so no need to go drilling for treasure.

2. ...and A-spot stimulation.

A few inches deeper than the aforementioned G-spot, the anterior fornix erogenous zone (as it's ~formally~ called) is located deep inside the vagina between the cervix and the bladder. "The angle of entry during doggy style sex enables the deep penetration necessary for stimulating this pleasure point," explains McLaughlin.

Depending on the length of your partner's penis/dildo/finger, they may be able to stimulate your A-spot while you're on all fours. If not, dropping onto your elbows will open you up even more and allow your partner to plunge deeper into your body, she suggests. Another option: Lay flat on your tummy and have your partner lie on top of you, like two stacked pancakes.

According to McLaughlin, some people may experience an "A-spot orgasm" from very deep penetration, while others may have a blended orgasm if they combine this sensation with some clitoral attention. (Related: The Best Clit Vibrators, According to Sex Educators).

3.You can control the depth.

If you feel nervous about giving doggy style a go specifically because you find deep penetration uncomfortable or even painful, good news: "There are ways to enjoy the position without all the depths," according to Smith. (FYI: Anal sex should never ever be painful. If it is, you're not going slow enough or using enough lube.)

She has three main tips.

  • Bring your legs closer together: "The closer your legs are together, the tighter your vaginal canal becomes, the less deep your partner is able to get," she explains. "This also gives your partner access to kiss, lick, or bite your shoulders or back of your neck and brings them close enough to whisper naughty thoughts into your ear." (Related: How to Talk Dirty During Sex).
  • Take control: "Instead of letting your partner control the thrusts, you can take over the movements," she says. "Swivel your hips, twerk, do figure eight's, bump and grind all over your partner in a way that is pleasurable (and not too deep) for you."
  • Use a physical barrier: While a cock ring may do the trick, Smith suggests the Ohnut, which is a squishy set of stackable rings that slip over a penis/dildo and acts as a bumper between your partner's shaft and your vagina during penetration.

4. You can bring your butt into the action.

Doggy style is an equal orifice opportunist sex position. Think about it: Your asshole is *right* there. "It's a great position for anal sex," confirms McLaughlin. To try it, lube up your anus and your partner's condom-clad penis/dildo. Then, have them press the tip against your butthole and slowly apply pressure while you press back into the sensation. "Many folks with vulvas are surprised by how good this can feel if they start smooth and slow," she says. Why does it feel so good? Anal penetration can indirectly stimulate the A-spot. (Related: The Best Anal Sex Positions).

Her suggestion: Once you find a rhythm, rub your clitoris or use a vibrator. Stimulating your clitoris will enhance your enjoyment of the whole shebang," she says. (Related: The Best Wand Vibrators for Intense Pleasure)

You might even try double-penetration, says Smith. "Your partner can use a finger to penetrate your vagina while their inside your anus. Or, finger your butthole while penetrating your vagina." Just remember not to go from the back hole back to the front hole. Doing do can transfer lingering bacteria from your anus to your vagina, which can increase your risk for a UTI.

5. You're in a great position for oral sex.

"You can get into the doggy style receiver position, and forgo penetration," says Smith. (Yes really!) "Being on all fours allows for great access for your partner to perform cunnilingus or to give you a rim job," she says.

In addition to generally feeling ahhmazing, this type of oral play before sex can help make the doggy style position (or any sex position, for that matter) more enjoyable. The vagina naturally expands as you get aroused, so foreplay is imperative for pleasure, she says. (More: 6 Facts You Don't Know About Your Vagina But Probably Should).

6. It doesn't require a bed.

If you and your partner love quickies or having sex in unconventional locations (read: *not* in the bedroom), doggy style—specifically standing doggy style—is perfect. You can do it in the shower, over the bathroom sink, in a stairwell, a broken-down elevator, a maintenance/coat closet, or...well, anywhere.

7. It actually *can* be intimate.

Look, you might not know it from watching doggy style porn, but doggy style can be more connected than carnal. "Have your partner enveloped you from behind, almost like you're spooning so that their arms are wrapped firmly around you," suggests McLaughlin. Make it more intimate still by laying flat on the bed so that every inch of your back is covered by their skin, she says.

You could consider placing a mirror in front of you, for a more real and raw twist on doggy style, she says. "Locking eyes via your reflections can heighten intimacy, and watching yourselves play can boost arousal. It's almost like starring in and watching an erotic film at the same time." Plus, if your partner closes their eyes in a moment of ecstasy, you'll get to watch just how much they're enjoying it and you. Yeah, H-O-T.

Of course, if you're craving something more intimate still, you can always return to good 'ole missionary.

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