The Honest Truth About the ~*Mythical*~ G-Spot
It's time to embark on a pleasure quest
Let's get the facts straight from the beginning: The G-spot is no Loch Ness Monster or BigFoot-type mythical creature. It exists. And while it might seem elusive and mysterious, it's not playing hard to get—you just have to know where to look.
Here are all the details on where the G-spot is, what you should know about G-spot stimulation, how to have a G-spot orgasm, and more.
Where Is the G-Spot, Anyway?
Let's begin with a little G-spot anatomy. About two inches in on the front wall of the vagina, you'll feel an area where the skin transitions from smooth to bumpy or spongy, says Logan Levkoff, Ph.D., one of Shape's resident sexperts. (*This* is when the famed "come-hither" gesture comes in handy!) That bumpy area is your paraurethral sponge, which supports the urethra, is the homebase of the G-spot. (We'll bet you didn't know these other six interesting facts about your vagina either.)
The G-spot is not really a "spot" in the traditional sense. There is no G-spot "button" that will suddenly send your partner into fits of orgasm. It's more like an area—one that needs maneuvering. What's more, while still contested by experts (more research still needs to be done), this area is not a distinct part of female sexual anatomy with its own singular functions; rather, it is the back end, or apex, of the clitoris.
That's right: The clitoris goes far beyond the small nub you see at the top of the vulva. That is just the tip of the iceberg. (Metaphorically and literally.) It extends into the body, down the labia, and toward the abdomen, below your pubic mound (up to five inches in some women). The G-spot is where the back of the internal clitoris meets the urethral network. (Mind blown?? Keep reading: Facts About the Clitoris That'll Revolutionize Your Orgasm)
How to Find and Stimulate Your G-Spot
Having trouble finding it on your own? The area is located inside the vagina, essentially behind the pubic bone. To locate it yourself, insert one or two fingers (or a G-spot wand, like this one) into the first few inches of the vagina and hook up towards the belly button. You should feel that rough patch Levkoff points out. It'll feel a bit bumpy, much like the shell of a walnut or the core of a peach. You can literally pull someone by their G-spot in this position (though we don't recommend trying that!).
Even better: The area pools with liquid and becomes engorged like the clitoris when you're aroused, which makes it more noticeable, says Levkoff. So, try a little clitoral stimulation or wait until things get ~heated~ with your partner before searching for G-spot gold. As we mentioned, it's not exactly a "spot," in that it's not a magic button that will turn you into an orgasm goddess; you may need to play around to find out what feels best. (Maybe it's with fingers, one of these sexpert-approved G-spot vibrators, or maybe it's one of these five G-spot sex positions that put more pressure on the front wall of the vagina).
There are many sensations you might experience with this kind of stimulation. Since it does fall near the urethral sponge, G-spot stimulation can sometimes feel like the urge to pee or intense pleasurable pressure (or both).
If G-spot stimulation is working for you, then firm, consistent pressure can produce some seriously wet and powerful orgasms and even female ejaculation (a.k.a. squirting), says Levkoff. But she says it's also important to note that not all women are the same, no one shares the same precise G-spot location, and responses to G-spot stimulation vary person-to-person. (P.S. If you're having trouble orgasming during sex, Levkoff can help with that too.)
When it comes to "squirting," it's about location. The G-spot falls near the Skene's Glands, which are located right by the urethra as well. These glands fill with an alkaline liquid (not urine!) that, when stimulated, can be released in some female bodies. Since the G-spot area is right on top of all these different anatomical structures, it makes sense that they, too, would be stimulated with this kind of touching or pressure. As Levkoff notes, squirting doesn't happen for everyone. We're not 100-percent sure why that is, but it's a fact, nonetheless. Again for the people in the back: There is nothing inherently better or worse about squirting or not squirting. (More on that here: Is Squirting Real, and How Do You Do It?)
How to Have a G-Spot Orgasm
If you're curious about how to experience a G-spot orgasm, there are some key techniques to help increase your chances of making this happen.
As suggested above, start with external stimulation of the clitoris. This will get your body aroused and ready for deeper, more grounded G-spot stimulation—and helps the area become engorged with blood and fluid. The best way to have a G-spot orgasm is through blended stimulation of the external clitoris and the G-spot. So, once your body is warmed up and you're fully sexually aroused, insert (or have your partner insert) one or two fingers into the vagina and hook up to the G-spot.
If you've spent time getting to know your body and experimented with G-spot stimulation, you'll know how you like to be touched in this area (if you haven't done this yet, go back and start there). You could like pinpointed pressure, a circular motion, left to right, or something totally different. Whatever it is, have your partner do this in tandem with clitoral stimulation. It might be easiest if you focus on stimulating your own clitoris and have your partner work the G-spot area. This focused, synced touch can help to engage the entire clitoral structure, both front and back, giving you a good chance of orgasm. (Doggy style is also a great sex position for G-Spot stimulation—and a lot of other perks—too.)
Again, remember that this is not the "better" way to orgasm. Every single body is different and needs different things to experience pleasure and orgasm. (There are a bunch of other types of orgasms you can have, too!)
Moral of the story: Don't stress if your G-spot isn't all you'd hoped it would be. Maybe clitoral stimulation is what gets you going, maybe it's penetration, or it could be a blend of both. Either way, no O-shaming here.