Kardashian revealed that she avoided sex for nearly two weeks as part of an Ayurvedic practice.
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Kourtney Kardashian has appeared smitten with her fiancé Travis Barker ever since the pair became Instagram official last year. Now, Kardashian is getting candid about their love life, sharing that she found that taking a short break from sex paid off.

In a new interview with Bustle, Kardashian reveals that she recently completed an Ayurvedic cleanse that included a "sex fast." More specifically, she completed a Panchakarma cleanse over the course of 12 days, she tells the publication. The Poosh creator likened the experience to taking that first sip of a caffeinated drink after skipping them for a while. "Oh my God, it was crazy," says Kardashian in the interview. "But it actually made everything better. Like, if you can't have caffeine, when you have your first matcha, it's so good."

She's not wrong — skipping sex can have major benefits not just for your sex drive, but for your overall outlook as well, according to Zoë Kors, a sex and intimacy coach and the author of Radical Intimacy: Cultivate the Deeply Connected Relationships You Desire and Deserve. "Abstinence from sex for a period of time (a day, a week, a month) when approached as a 'practice' can not only make sex more enjoyable when you return to it, but can actually be good for your mental health, self-esteem, and libido," says Kors. "When we engage in a sexual relationship, we often experience our own bodies and sexuality in reference to our partner. This is healthy and natural. But it's also important to balance that with a strong sense of self. In relationship, we can only meet each other to the extent that we can meet ourselves. Agreeing to forgo sex for a specific short period of time with the intention of pulling your energy back in and focusing on your own experience of your own body, mind, and spirit, can enhance your availability to your partner when you re-engage intimately."

If you're hoping to reignite a spark that's fizzled out, however, you'll need more than just a temporary hiatus from bedroom activities to reconnect and engage on an intimate level — though that can help take the pressure off while you work on things together, says Kors. "For partners who feel they have lost a spark, a sex fast alone probably isn't enough to reignite it," she says. "It takes a multi-prong approach to heat things up in the bedroom after a long dry spell. Much of that work has to do with mindset as much as anything. Taking a defined break from sex will create space for that work to happen. It will also relieve a couple of some of the tension and fear that tend to come with a fading sex life."

While taking the break, it'll also help to "practice some serious self-care, self-love, and self-reflection during that time," she says. "It may sound like a long time, but I suggest one month to come home to yourselves in this way. Then create a special ritual to break the fast. Dim the lights, turn off the devices, put on your favorite playlist, light some candles, and enjoy."

If you are curious about the kind of cleanse Kardashian tried, Kors says there are many different types that are buzzy in the wellness space these days. "The kind of cleanse Kourtney Kardashian did was called Panchakarma and is a deep, multi-faceted modality supervised by an Ayurvedic medical practitioner," she says. Ayurveda is a thousands-year-old holistic form of wellness developed in India, which emphasizes the importance of diet, deep sleep and meditation, and tuning in to the body's natural rhythm to overall health.

One aspect of Panchakarma is abstaining from sex, since it's thought to move a lot of energy in the body, says Kors. "During a Panchakarma cleanse, abstinence from sex, as well as other forms of stimulation means the body create an optimal environment for rest, release, and rebalance — physically, mentally, and spiritually," she says.

While taking a break from sex may sound unappealing on the surface, it seems Kardashian just might be onto something here.