Step 1: Stop playing Goldilocks with the penises.

By Lauren Mazzo
Updated: September 29, 2016

Pop culture loves to poke fun at small penises-from New Girl to Sex and the City to Curb Your Enthusiasm-it seems like everyone is game to acknowledge the existence of the "micropenis" and all the awkwardness that might come with it. But there's one thing seriously lacking in the prime-time peen coverage: How can you make it work if your partner isn't the most well-endowed?

First of all, let's talk about the definition of "small." (Keep in mind that the average penis size is about 5 inches.) And as we pointed out before, size is relative; what's too big, too small, or just right for you may be very different for someone else.

But when it comes to accepting that your dude is a more baby carrot than cucumber, or is simply smaller than you'd prefer, this first rule is important: Don't point it out to him or make him feel self-conscious about it, says Shape sexpert Dr. Logan Levkoff. Chances are, he already knows that he's not the biggest dude in the locker room.

Second: Don't lose faith. Most women don't orgasm from vaginal intercourse alone anyways, says Levkoff, so remember that P-in-V isn't the be-all and end-all of your sexual experience. Like any other size issues (whether he's big, you're small, there's a sizable height difference, etc.), strategically changing positions can help. If your partner's size doesn't quite tickle your fancy, Levkoff recommends missionary position, having him enter you from behind while you lie on your stomach, and squeezing your thighs so that you keep him inside of your body. And, BTW, you might want to stay clear of lube. If things get too wet and wild, it'll make it easier for his penis to slip out. (And the most slipping out that's happening, the most risk there is for a broken penis.)

Third: You're dating the person, not the penis. So as funny as that New Girl episode might be, you've got to admit size really isn't everything.

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Comments (2)

Anonymous
April 17, 2018
As a guy with a short and girthy [filtered], position is important. Also, honesty is important. Once the subject has been broached there's no point in being shy about it. After a bit of prompting, one girlfriend told me that PIV sex was important to her and that my [filtered] was too short for the positions she preferred. Another girlfriend told me she enjoyed sex with me and playfully referred to my [filtered] as Shorty - which I didn't mind at all.
Anonymous
September 4, 2017
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