Feeling "in the mood" when your bladder's full is more common than you might think.
For the most part, you're pretty familiar with the random things that light your fire—dirty books, too much wine, your bf's beard. But every now and then, you may find yourself irrationally turned on by something totally unsexy: like having to pee. Seriously, it's a thing.
Although there isn't specific research on the subject, feeling randy when your bladder's full is more common than you might think, says Sherry Ross, M.D., ob-gyn and women's health expert in Santa Monica, California. In fact, vaginal penetration (with a penis or sex toy), increased blood flow to the clitoris and surrounding tissue, and a full bladder can be the ultimate trifecta for the perfect orgasm. (This is not a drill.)
"The clitoris, vagina, and urethra (which connects to the bladder) are located very close to one another," says sexual health consultant Celeste Holbrook, Ph.D. "A full bladder can push onto some of the more sensitive and arousing parts of the genitalia, such as the clitoris and its branches. Many women use stimulation in one or more of these areas to stimulate the others." Plus, the elusive G-spot is around the entrance to the bladder, says Ross, which may also contribute to a heightened sexual experience (translation: hella intense orgasms).
If you haven't tried getting busy with a full bladder, experts agree that there's nothing wrong with doing so, so long as you're going about it in a way that works best for you and your partner. For example, if needing to go number one arouses you at first but you find the pressure distracting during the deed, try engaging in foreplay on a full bladder and then going to the bathroom before penetration, suggests Holbrook.
Or, you may want to practice Kegel exercises to help prevent any unwanted surprises mid-nookie. "Contracting your Kegel muscles with sexual arousal and orgasm helps you not lose urine, and also feels good for your male partner during penetration," says Ross. The exercises strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, supporting the vagina and urethra, so you can comfortably squeeze these muscles during sex sans leakage.
The trick is to make sure you don't hold it for too long (to the point where it's painful) or too often (say, holding it every time you want to have sex) just to enjoy that feeling. After all, the signal of fullness isn't intended to turn you on but to get you to empty your bladder, says Carol Queen, Ph.D., staff sexologist for Good Vibrations. (See also: Is It Bad to Hold Your Pee?) Over time, ignoring your body's signals could lead to an inability to fully empty your bladder or increase your risk of developing a urinary tract infection—but done every so often, holding it for the sake of a better orgasm is a-okay. Grrr, baby.