Why You Shouldn't Be Friends With Your Ex
You've made it through the uncomfortable breakup...now what happens?
"Let's be friends." It's an easy line to drop during a break up, as it intends to ease the pain of a breaking heart. But should you be friends with your ex?
Here are 10 reasons why you can't be friends when the relationship is over:
1. It's torture. You're hanging out "as friends." He does something that makes you smile. You suddenly want to kiss him-but can't. Why would you put yourself through that?!
2. False hope. Admit it, it's there. And if it's not there for you, it probably is for your ex.
3. You can't undo the past. If you've seen each other naked, you'll have always seen each other naked. Note: Most platonic pals of opposite genders have not seen each other naked.
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4. You don't honestly want them to be with someone else. There's a conflict of interest in your new "buddy-buddy" relationship, if you don't want your ex to start dating again. Here's the catch: Real friends want each other to be happy.
5. It gets awkward fast. Again, real friends also talk about their personal lives with each other.
6. Do you want to go to his wedding? If the answer to that is no, then you're not going to make a very good friend, are you?
7. It's awkward for your mutual friends. They know you dated. They remember the PDA. And now they have to figure out how to treat the two of you when you show up to a party together-but-not-together.
8. The mixed signals. There are too many nicknames, inside jokes and memories to start fresh, so you're likely to fall into old dating patterns even when not romantically involved. It can be confusing for one or both of you.
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9. Would you want to hang out with someone's ex all the time? The odds of finding true love are slim if you're still hanging out with your ex. What new guy or gal would want to spend all his or her time with your ex? After all, they want to date you, NOT your ex.
10. It's not healthy. You've had your heart broken. Why not invest your time and energy in the people who make you happy, not the ones who've hurt you deeply? (And if you broke up because of betrayal, character issues, hurtful comments or incompatible values, why are you choosing to spend time with someone you've already learned isn't good for you?)
What do you think about being friends with an ex? Possible…or not probable?
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