Learning you're pregnant can be a wonderful surprise. Many women who are expecting spend months learning about motherhood and how to properly nurture and care for the life growing inside of them. That said, they aren't always prepared for some things that happen after pregnancy, especially the drastic changes your body goes through. (Read: Peta Murgatroyd Reveals How Post-Baby Bodies Don't Just 'Shrink Right Back')
This is something Alexandra Kilmurray can relate to. The mother-of-two recently shared a refreshingly honest post about how difficult it can be to accept your body after pregnancy. She's labeling it "the dark sides of motherhood and pregnancy," something mothers hesitate to talk about.
Well, I know a lot of you guys are probably thinking 'why would she post this picture', but, it took me 18 months to get here, 18 months to not cry when I look in the mirror, 18 months to finally feel beautiful in my own skin again! No one warns you about the dark sides of motherhood and pregnancy.. no one gives you a heads up on how much you change physically and mentally after you become a mother. It's been a long and hard postpartum ride for me.. 18 months after my first son and 5 months after my second son I feel like I can finally see the light and it genuinely feels amazing cheers to you mamas who are battling postpartum depression and still getting up everyday for your children! Cheers to you mamas who still cry about the marks on your skin from birthing your perfect babies! Cheer to motherhood, cheers to knowing that this too shall pass! And things will get better #motherhood #breastmilk #breastfeeding #normalizebreastfeeding #mommyandme #tigerstripes #postpartum #postpartumdepression #babies #mombod #proud #inlove
The picture shows her stomach with one of her babies laying next to her. "I know a lot of you guys are probably thinking 'why would she post this picture,' but, it took me 18 months to get here," she writes. "18 months to not cry when I look in the mirror, 18 months to finally feel beautiful in my own skin again."
"No one gives you a heads up on how much you change physically and mentally after you become a mother," she continues, before adding that it took having two children for her to "finally see the light." After over a year of battling with her new body, she finally got the courage to love and be proud of her stretch marks and loose skin—things she had once seen as flaws. (Read: Robyn Lawley Proves Post-Baby Stretch Marks Are Beautiful)
"Cheers to you mamas who are battling postpartum depression and still getting up every day for your children," she writes. "Cheers to you mamas who still cry about the marks on your skin from birthing your perfect babies. Cheers to motherhood, cheers to knowing that this too shall pass! And things will get better."
It takes a lot of courage to share your insecurities in such a public manner and the truth is, Alexandra is not alone. Mothers all over the world face the same physical and mental challenges after pregnancy, and it's great to talk about them like this in the open. There should never be a cause or reason why a woman is made to feel less-than or imperfect because of the changes her body is going through—whether that's during pregnancy or just in general. You only get one body, so appreciate it!