Plenty of brides-to-be are #sweatingforthewedding in an effort to look their best on their big day. But fitness influencer Alyssa Greene is reminding women not to take it too far. (Related: Why I Decided Not to Lose Weight for My Wedding)
Bride Transformation story: to all the to be Brides or recently marriedTwo years ago I was planning my wedding. I was so stressed out I couldn’t eat, I had no appetite. I would cry if I had to take an unplanned rest day. I remember weighing myself the morning of my bachelorette party two years ago from today and seeing 114lbs. A number I had never seen. But the thing is, I never wanted to get small or lose a bunch of weight, with all the stress that’s where my body landed. And in my mind.... I had made it. I remember my amazing friends throwing me a shower with donuts and waffles, I took small portions, nibbled and threw them away. We went on to eat so much sushi, and went out to breakfast the next morning. I remember thinking I wouldn’t fit into my dress. When someone at my bridal shower made a comment asking if I even ate because I looked so small, I looked down at the cake in my hands and refused to eat it. Your wedding is an amazing life experience; and some how we have been conditioned to believe the Smaller bride we are... the more beautiful and worthy of wearing a dress we become. But who even set that standard?!? It’s like I had heard of all these people losing weight for their wedding so I just expected myself to. This was not healthy. The stress wasn’t healthy, and although I coped well with it and never had any disorder, i crossed the line of strict one too many times. After I had watched myself gain all this weight back, I struggled to fight off thoughts that i was a better being "small". but i fought that with all my might. I learned about nutrition. I fought to get the mindset that I have today and that is something I hope all brides see and believe when it comes to #sweatingforthewedding If you’ve followed me for awhile you know I gained 20lbs after my lowest wedding weight. Currently I have found my balance, and am beyond happy healthy and balanced. Just like losing a lot, this wasn’t healthy either. I am so proud of myself. So proud to kick the mindset that throwing away cake makes me stronger. And that any number defines my beauty.
In a recent Instagram post, Greene looked back on the wedding planning process and wishes she hadn't been so hard on herself. "Two years ago I was planning my wedding. I was so stressed out I couldn't eat, I had no appetite. I would cry if I had to take an unplanned rest day," she wrote. "Your wedding is an amazing life experience; and somehow we have been conditioned to believe the [smaller] we are... the more beautiful and worthy of wearing a dress we become. But who even set that standard?!?"
Greene has since gained all the weight back and found a happy, healthy balance. And she's a huge advocate for body-positivity, cautioning her followers about the dangers of restrictive diets.
"I think a lot of times women put so much pressure on themselves to have this drastic weight loss for the wedding when they're already beautiful as is," she tells Shape. "It's almost like a crash diet. You go months and months restricting and then what? Women need to remember that there's a difference between weight loss, getting 'fit' and going completely too far, forcing yourself to lose every last pound. There's nothing wrong with wanting to look your best, but you have to ask yourself, at what price?"
Remember: "You're supposed to feel like the most beautiful person inside and out on your wedding day, and not feel inadequate because of some number you see."
So even if you're trying to shape up for your big event, her sentiments are a nice reminder to put your health and happiness first.
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